DP going to toilet in strange places during the night

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We have been together 12 years and lived together for 7.

Of all this time I have never known this to happen.

A week ago I awoke anti him getting out of bed and going to the laundry basket to wee. I screamed and shouted and he stopped eventually but he had a lot of cleaning up in the morning. I was disgusted. He seemed shocked.

Assumed it was a one off odd rare occaision.

Bit tonight I have just awoken to him getting out of bed and pulling his underwear down and sitting on the floor next to the bed.

I shouted and told him to get up.
He talks back saying something about being in the toilet club and they all go together. Can't get any more sense out of him, I tell him to wake up. He says he is awake and so I tell him to better not go to toilet on the floor. He says he won't but takes ages to get up. I asked him why his boxers were down and that he was sitting on the floor? He says nothing and gets up to go to toilet.

I'm feeling disgusted again and quite angry, in spite of there not being an accident happened.

What happens if he does it again and I don't wake up?

What could cause this behaviour?

Was he drinking prior to these occasions?

I'm sorry op but his toilet club comment made me giggle. Is it some sort of sleep disorder? Or alcohol induced?

Yes. But not heavily or more than normal. He didn't come to bed drunk on either occaision

Luciemay - If I hadn't have been so worried about my carpet I would have been laughing too. It was weird

Sorry, being the in the toilet club and all going together made me laugh too.

It does sound like some sort of sleep walking/disorder phase. Is he under any extra stress from work or elsewhere?

Check your slippers in the morning before you put them on. You don't want squidgy toes.

We are getting married in 4 weeks.
That could be stressing him out I suppose.

I don't want to marry someone who is a member of the toilet club though!

Are you making a speech on your wedding day? Mentioning the toilet club could be funny!

Stress and sleep walking definitely. I used to do it

Get him a chamber pot if he's going to carry this on (it's disgusting, btw) - but it sounds like something might be amiss.

My DH has waking "episodes" where he is sort of between awake and asleep - his dream continues but becomes part of his reality. He does it more when he's very tired or stressed, so it could be something like that.
He's never peed in strange places though, it's usually a continuation of whatever dream he's been having - mind you, your stbDH might have been dreaming he was in the "toilet club" - maybe that's where it comes from and why he can't explain it now?

Sleepwalking that is, not pissing in the laundry

Is he at all stressed? Last week my OH walked into the kitchen, bumped into the island before turning around and bouncy between the walls and climbing back into bed and curling up. And I've been known to berate him in my sleep when he's pissed me off too much.

I'd be slightly worried about his membership of the toilet club though

I had an ex who did this once and my DH has done it once as well - but both times the men in question had gone to bed very pissed. Luckily I managed to avert disaster both times and no inappropriately aimed body fliuds were spilt!

MY DH will have very lucid dreams where he might gabble nonsense and even go as far as sitting up or trying to get up, if he is very stressed and overtired with lots on his mind. It doesn't happen often though.

A group of boys from a neighbouring school plotted to all take a synchronised dump in the boys' loos and then flush them all together; they overwhelmed the plumbing and all got suspended. DS and his football teammates tried the same in their dressing room loos but found the plumbing had been better designed. They were all disappointed, having gone to some trouble with the pooping...

Did your DP ever do something like this?
Or maybe he had some sort of traumatic toilet training experience and the stress is making him relive it?

DD3 sometimes sleepwalks, and mutters things at me when I tell her it's time to go back to bed, but she always goes, sometimes says 'OK' and nods.. It is very uncanny -- she looks straight at me but she's clearly not 'there'.

Sleep walking. I don't think you should be shouting if it happens ( though totally understand why you would) just gentle guidance back to bed. It's probably a passing thing, maybe due to stress, but if it continues I'd mention it to a gp. I would also avoid alcohol to see what difference that made.

Good luck for the wedding :)

i had an ex used to do this too, he would have smoked weed though which is what i thought caused it. he also had some issues like depression.

He's forgotten the first rule of toilet club...

Don't talk about toilet club.

This happened to my ex if he was stressed. He was sleep walking.

If this is new then seeing the GP is a good idea too.

I agree with previous comment,
As it's a new thing, happening in sleep not conciously,
I would get it checked out with gp.
May be stress related, may be a symptom of something else going on.

Sounds like he's sleep weeing walking to me.

I think I might have done this once too

Sleepwalking for sure. I do this as does one of my DCs, but never toilet-related thank goodness! We do quite surreal things nonetheless: you are half awake but continuing a weird dream, and feel certain that you are being reasonable, yet totally perplexed at how nobody else seems to appreciate the importance of your mission.

My brother has done it once after drinking a little too much. It was dangerous in his case as he piled everything from the fridge into the frying pan, put the gas on and went back to bed. Luckily I got up and sorted it out in time. He had also left the front door wide open and we lived in a dodgy part of London.

Mention to gp but don't worry unduly unless it continues, I would guess.

I would think it's probably stress.

But I also think it would be a very good adea to see a gp, just in case it is a symptom of something else

He is obviously asleep. It is stress related and I am sure it will stop once the wedding is behind you.

I wonder if they have a Toilet Club secret handshake?

Sorry OP! Is he weeing more often than normal? If he is, then perhaps tell him to get his blood sugar levels tested.
Other than that, as you are getting married in 4 weeks then I would suggest he stop drinking until after the wedding. Drinking makes you need to pee in the middle of the night and if he's stressed then this feeling of needing a wee is obviously interrupting his dreams and whilst his body is telling him to get up and pee, his mind is working that into a dream.

So if you take away the need to pee then you take away the problem. Can't he just abstain until the wedding day? Or not drink after 8pm?

I had an ex-boyfriend who once peed in the fridge while he was asleep, my mate's DH peed in the wardrobe and my brother once peed in the kitchen bin.

I think they just mark their territory. It is instinctive.