Big spider

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There is a mahoosive spider somewhere in my house, would it be wrong to leave the kids on there own until someone finds and kills it?

Why do you want someone to kill it?

Yes.

Where did you last see it? There's no way you could track it down and put a glass over it?

tbh, there will be at least half a dozen if not more spiders in your house. They mostly keep well hidden.

what are you expecting the spider to do? hide behind a door and ambush you?

it is a spider, it will not hurt you...

Squeaky, rather than help that probably just put ideas in the ops head and scared her more

Sod the bloody kids. I would have run out and called my dad to come and kill it. I am 44.

Worra to a confirmed arachnophobe the only good spider is a stone dead one.

Hectate, thanks I am sitting here thwacking myself at imagined spider landings on my person and probably won't sleep tonight.

Put the house on the market

You dont understand how scared I am. I cant go back inside until its gone. My DD said its giant and fury Ewwww

oh god, sorry.

Actually I just realised I'm only 43

Ponders whether fear can take years off a person

Seriously... you have to get over the fear. It will not hurt you. I am not the biggest fan of spiders, and have got the dog very well trained now.... if I shout "spider" and point, he will stamp on it for me and usually eat it .. but I would much rather have a spider in the house than a wasp..

Have you sought help for it? (for the fear that is...not the spider!)

It's irrational and you may well pass this fear on to your children.

Seriously how can you get over irrational fears? I know its not going to hurt me but I absolutely cannot go in the house while its there.

Yes you need to get over the fear - it's quite irrational and can be treated if you want to do it.

You probably learned fear of spiders it by example from your mother when you were young, and now you are teaching the same pointless fear to your children. Do you really want that?

I've met women who are convinced that being frightened of spiders makes them more feminine. It's just so pointless.

Cross-post. Google fear of spiders - there is help available.

where are you now? in the car or in the garden?

I'm sorry for being flippant, I thought you were joking.

You need help. I had CBT for my needle phobia. It was amazingly helpful.

There are always going to be spiders around you, most of them unseen but there. You have got to try to learn to cope with that. CBT is excellent for this.

As for the house, I suppose there's no way you could force yourself to go in armed with the hoover and use the hose on every square inch of the place?

Seriously how can you get over irrational fears? I know its not going to hurt me but I absolutely cannot go in the house while its there.

With therapy.

So how long are you going to stand outside your house for?

What if your children can't find it?

No.help right now but.go to your gp and explain this fear is affecting your life. If it is so bad you can't go in the house you need some help. I am bad but ok in another room - although I can avoid a room for days if it was a big spider. There is assistance for this.

Easy to say "Get over the fear" when you don't have an irrational fear of your own.

OP I feel your pain - I'd be getting my dcs out and selling the house or burning it down

Oh and I went through aversion therapy - it made it worse!

you can go into the the house :)

you know that it is an irrational fear, you know that there is no real danger, or you would have got your children away from it...

irrational fears like that have to be overcome, or it can end up ruining your life...

Hoover it up (nice long pole at the end)

Also, if you take a deep breath and think logically - if you are outside right now - where do you think most spiders are? If you don't like to be around spiders - there are fewer of them in the house than in the garden! Is your child old enough to get out the hoover? Would you feel safer if you had the hoover to 'defend' yourself, iyswim?

Ok, what is CBT? Do they make you touch them?

The phobia is getting worse with age. I am literally thinking that theyre crawling in my hair even when Im outside. I wish I was scared of snakes at least you dont see them.

oh - but please don't think I don't understand. My needle phobia? so bad that I nearly died because I ran away from the hospital rather than have a cannula. More than once. And I refused much needed surgery because I would actually rather have died - really died - than have a needle. I was risking actual harm because of it!

CBT and now I can have blood taken, have my 12 weekly b12 jab and even injected myself in the stomach for 10 days.

Please look into it. It changed my life and it could change yours too.

I have two very great fears: dentists and spiders. I go out of my way not to instill these terrors in DS eg DH takes DS to the dentist so as not to witness my sweating, rigid, wracked form in the chair.

You cannot rationalise a fear, even if you know its cause. I realise a spider is x times smaller than me and cannot actually hurt me. Doesn't stop me from leaping in the air and having papitations simply from seeing a picture. I also have a recurring dream where someone gives me a tarantula as a gift.

How old are your kids OP and do they show any signs of being scared of spiders?