Big spider

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There is a mahoosive spider somewhere in my house, would it be wrong to leave the kids on there own until someone finds and kills it?

Do you live in Australia? No? don't come here then - we have eNORmous spiders which bite - you don't have that issue in the UK, not really, not most places anyway.

CBT = cognitive behavioural therapy - designed to make you change your way of thinking and behaving so you can overcome negative behavioural traits, such as irrational fears (phobias).
Hypnotherapy can work with some phobias as well.

If this is affecting your day to day life then you do need help - and since you appear to be incapable of going back into the house where your DC are now unsupervised, that is bad - so perhaps you should start with your GP and see if you can get a CBT referral.

Thank you HecateTrivia, I will look into it.

I can not hide my fear from the children (feel bad about that now) they all think its funny and are not scared of anything.

God Im so pathetic, I dont know why I wrote it on here, even the title is freaking me out.

Cognative Behavioural Therapy.

I had a great many sessions it wasn't a short thing!

At first, it was talking about it, about me, about my feelings. Then some visualisation. Some work on what's the reality v my fear. Talking through what I think is going to happen. Breaking that down. Confronting it. When you actually sit down and talk about the reality of it - you see just how daft it is! Then one session she brought out a needle and put it on the table. I didn't have to look at it, touch it or anything. It just had to be there. That was a very difficult session!

I worked all the way up to holding it! over time. Then I worked up to having it taped to my hand, then taped to my hand for 24 hours.

It is a very slow thing and you are in control of the pace. They don't walk you into the room and throw the thing you're afraid of at you

I had let the fear get out of control. Crying, fainting, putting myself at risk - because of a needle! How daft is that? I can't believe I ever let it have that power over me.

I won't lie to you, it's still not my favourite thing I have to use what I learned in terms of breathing exercises, visualisation etc - but I can cope.

You can too.

OP I think this is where the kids can help. If you could manage to go back into say the kitchen and call DD in, say to her that spiders that big reallly font belong in the house. Get her to capture it in a beaker and put it down the end of the garden.

thumb witch, may years ago I realised that a trip to Australia would never ever happen.

It's not pathetic, but it does sound as though you need help.

The kids may find it funny, but that's not to say they won't develop their own irrational fears too.

How old are they?

I once left my flat when I was younger (years ago when Germany beat England, which is all I remember about the time) I gaffer taped up my bedroom after having a particularly aggressive spider who used to jump on my face and moved back in with my mum. After 3 weeks when I was starting to grate, she went to my flat and found a huge bastard spider dead on my pillow.
Second, I once put a pint glass on a big ass bastard and called my mum who drove 50 minutes, put it in a matchbox and took it to Dorset because "it was a good shed spider".

Since being in the ME where they jump and bite, I still don't kill but do keep ants, geckos and dogs who eat them.
YANBU

The children are all over 10 so not in any danger. Ive called my Mum to come. I do know how stupid I sound, every time I go to go back in I just shiver eww eww eww.

In fairness because my mum is a spider handler (through having to) I do deal with them around then children. Still do not allow stamping on them for no reason although I do believe that sometimes you have to deal with them.

Spiders are good news, they eat all sorts of household bugs. Hug your spider :o

you could do what i did, got a job working with them but im still scared. However i would NEVER kill a spider, and if you do you'll make it rain!

Tis a shame really, enjoyresponsibly - it's a great place to visit! But admittedly not if you're arachnophobic.

I used to be fine with spiders in the UK, never willingly killed one - but here, different story. I leave the huntsman spiders alone, cos they're too big to mess with; move the wolf spiders out the house and kill any redbacks or whitetails that I see. I'm not sad about it, surprisingly - it has to be done for our own safety.

oh and it is totally because my mum was scared of spiders that i am scared - she used to make me watch them and tell me if they moved. My dad works nights and one night i had to stay up until 4am watching a fucking spider that was under the TV

I now have three spiders in my kitchen, they have been there a few years now - they stop the flies from coming in, they are called boris, ken and legs (legs is massive)

Ugh I hate spiders, I'd rather deal with field mice that occasionally come in.
I had a massive one nearly as big as my palm in the dishwasher yesterday. I cracked open the door to dry the dishes and it was hiding when I unloaded them.
I'm amazed the scream I let out didn't wake Dh as he's working late shift. In the end I locked the beggar back in the dishwasher and went off to a party we had to get to, I put a post it note on the door of the dishwasher, saying bloody big spider and arrows, to stop Dh opening it. When I came home I vacuumed the thing up, it made clunking noises up the pipe
I hope you find and vacuum up your spider soon OP.