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AIbU for thinking this woman is rude for asking a complete stranger for another biscuit

60 replies

shoesaremyfriends · 10/06/2012 08:21

I was at the park yesterday and my dd dropped her biscuit whilst she was on the swing. A little boy (about 3ish) picked it up and in the process nearly got a kick in the head. I asked his mother if he could have a biscuit as a thank you and she replied that if I gave him a biscuit his younger sister would want one too. I thought this was reasonable so I gave them both one.

About 20 minuets later the woman came back with the little boy. She asked if she could have another biscuit. Me being a little confused asked if he had dropped it. she said no, that he had eaten it. Still a little confused I then asked if he had any other siblings that wanted one. The mother said no and that he wouldn't leave her alone until she had asked me for another biscuit and he was trying to take his little sister's one. I said I only had two left, which was a total lie, I had just been to the shop and bought a pack of 24 jaffa cakes. She then said that she would buy one off me.

I gave in and handed over another biscuit. The mother then thanks me.

I would never ask a stranger for another treat after they had so kindly given one in the first place. AND I would never let my child bully me into asking a stranger for something. I don't understand why she couldn't of just said no.

AIBU, she was really rude... right? or am I just too hard a mother?

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TroublesomeEx · 10/06/2012 08:23

Well it was a bit odd but not a big deal.

idontbelieveanymore · 10/06/2012 08:24

YANBU - nowt stranger than folk.

baskingseals · 10/06/2012 08:25

it wouldn't bother me at all. it's only a biscuit.

rookanga · 10/06/2012 08:25

Maybe they thought that because you had started handing out biscuits that you wouldnt mind another one?

TheProvincialLady · 10/06/2012 08:26

Feel sorry for her. As far as parenting goes, she is lamer than a lame duck that has just been tied up and shot in both knees.

comedycentral · 10/06/2012 08:26

She was quite rude. I would have given in straight away though as I am too wet for my own good sometimes!

CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 10/06/2012 08:26

I would never ask! I'd just tell DS no and distract him. If he threw a tantrum about it I'd take him home.

What has the boy learnt about it now? Pester mum and she'll do anything. That if he wants something other people own he only has to kick up a fuss and it's his?

If he was hungry, she should have got him something else to eat.

shoesaremyfriends · 10/06/2012 08:26

That's probably it... not rude but odd.

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CailinDana · 10/06/2012 08:27

What she did was weird but I'd have just handed over the biscuit on the assumption that she was dog tired and not thinking straight or desperately trying to head off a tantrum. The poor woman was so desperate she was going to buy the blooming biscuit!

larks35 · 10/06/2012 08:27

It doesn't sound like she was rude tbh, but agree she is silly to let her ds tell her what to do. I have to admit though that my heart would sink a bit if a stranger offered my DS (3.5) a tasty titbit because I would know that once it had gone I would be barraged (?) with "I want a biscuit" x1000!

AThingInYourLife · 10/06/2012 08:27

She was frightfully greedy!

pictish · 10/06/2012 08:28

Slightly odd, but not a biggie.

FallenCaryatid · 10/06/2012 08:29

She's a parent who can't say no to her preschooler. There's a lot of them around.

cocolepew · 10/06/2012 08:29

You could make a fortune selling individual Jaffa Cakes to weak willed parents in the park.

FallenCaryatid · 10/06/2012 08:31

I always think of dear Veruca when I see behaviour like this.
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shoesaremyfriends · 10/06/2012 08:34

I'm with CharlieUniformNovemberTango on this one. I would of firmly said no and if dd was still kicking up a fuss would of taken her home.

There is a pub attached to the playground so she could of bought him a packet of crisp if he was hungry and several shops around too.

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BillyBollyBandy · 10/06/2012 08:35

I think it was rude and weird to ask for another one for his sister! Don't even get me started on coming back to ask another one Wink

She's ging to have years of fun ahead of her if she doesn't start saying no.

FallenCaryatid · 10/06/2012 08:35

But he wanted a biiiiissssscuit. NOW!

Tee2072 · 10/06/2012 08:37

Rude? Perhaps a bit.

Unable to be a parent? Definitely.

iknowwho · 10/06/2012 08:37

I wouldn't have given it a second thought never mind start a thread over it tbh

Proudnscary · 10/06/2012 08:43

I'd be feeling sorry for her rather than feeling angry - if she doesn't know that she can say 'NO' to her child then her life's gonna be one loooonggg headache.

ladyintheradiator · 10/06/2012 08:44

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FallenCaryatid · 10/06/2012 08:44

Feel sorry for the child and irritated with her TBH.

FallenCaryatid · 10/06/2012 08:45

Grin Definitely a non-event LITR.

comedycentral · 10/06/2012 08:47

Stop moaning about it being a 'non event'...this is what AIBU is all about Grin