AIbU for thinking this woman is rude for asking a complete stranger for another biscuit

[shoesaremyfriends]

I was at the park yesterday and my dd dropped her biscuit whilst she was on the swing. A little boy (about 3ish) picked it up and in the process nearly got a kick in the head. I asked his mother if he could have a biscuit as a thank you and she replied that if I gave him a biscuit his younger sister would want one too. I thought this was reasonable so I gave them both one.

About 20 minuets later the woman came back with the little boy. She asked if she could have another biscuit. Me being a little confused asked if he had dropped it. she said no, that he had eaten it. Still a little confused I then asked if he had any other siblings that wanted one. The mother said no and that he wouldn't leave her alone until she had asked me for another biscuit and he was trying to take his little sister's one. I said I only had two left, which was a total lie, I had just been to the shop and bought a pack of 24 jaffa cakes. She then said that she would buy one off me.

I gave in and handed over another biscuit. The mother then thanks me.

I would never ask a stranger for another treat after they had so kindly given one in the first place. AND I would never let my child bully me into asking a stranger for something. I don't understand why she couldn't of just said no.

AIBU, she was really rude... right? or am I just too hard a mother?

I wasn't interrogating her... it just seemed odd that she would ask for another one. The first biscuit was a reward and I was not giving them out.

Meh would think it was odd and probably mention it to dh but no one else really. To me it wouldn't really be a biggie!

You were lovely offering them one at the beginning tho :)

YABU letting your DD eat a biscuit while on a swing

It is a 'bit cheeky' but thats all really. I would have shoved all 24 jaffas in my mouth (I have a big mouth) and said 'sorry none left now'. Surprised to not see any [biscuits] floating around this thread.

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tbh I put this on here just to gauge whether I should lighten up on my own child and if it is "no biggie".

Some of us do use mn to get advice on mothering

I'm with willabywallaby, why did you dd have a biscuit on the swing?

She's 7 and we were playing a game. I was on one swing and passing it to her... sound but was really really funny.

I'd have been very bemused.

But then I knew one of these persuasive 3 yos - now she's 8 and I get the feeling she will go far in life - I guess she'd make a great polititian!!!!!

AIBU is full of things that could be considered non-events.

I think this is odd enough behaviour to have gone home and said "I met this weird/wet woman in the park..."

Posting on AIBU is just the online equivalent. What's the problem with that?

It was a bit odd but then there are a lot of odd people about! Not anything to dwell upon.

BTW I'm separated so talking to my dh about stuff like this is not an option... this is the equivalent of getting home, putting the kettle on and saying wow guess what happened in the park today.

kugfu Nothing wrong with that but like I said I wouldn't have given it another thought.Not even to mention it to Dh or anyone.
I didn't think it was odd or rude or anything!!

I thought the OP was odd asking loads of questions though.
A yes or no answer from her would have been fine.

I don't think it's a non-event! I'd have been very taken aback and perturbed by this - it is a bit rude, strange and all sorts of things.

I find it odd to offer to buy a biscuit off you. Never come across a situation like this

I don't think it's a non-event either.

I think it demonstrates everything that is wrong with how the youth of this country are being raised. That boy is going to grow up to be the kind of boy that thinks it's fine to disrupt a class because all that matters are his wants and needs.His mummy never says 'no' to him, so why should anyone else? And then, when you phone up his mum and tell her little Johnny doesn't know how to behave, she'll probably blame it all on the school or act as if his rudeness is a complete bleedin' mystery.

You should have taken the packet and shoved it up her arse!!!!

I also think it´s odd & not a non event.

Going back to OP & asking for another biscuit & then offering to buy one??!!

Perhaps I just live near odd parks and people then but this wouldn't faze me!!

I think you were very generous to share jaffa cakes in the first place, - I tend to keep them all for myself.

I bet the woman was just using her little boy as a cover story, - she wanted the jaffa for herself.

Her cheek would have made me laugh and I would have handed over another jaffa cake.

I would have been a touch upset though as I don't really like sharing them.

shoesaremyfriends you are not being U, I would have told my DD no as well and taken her home. weird behaviour of the mother.

To whoever has said the OP should share, why the heck should she? She had already given this boy and his sister a biscuit each. The boy's mum probably never says no to him, and he is probably an extremely spoilt brat as a result

Sounds like someone who wasn't being rude deliberately but was perhaps trying to socialise, with limited social skills.

It's not a non event. It is a bit cheeky though! I would have handed over a jaffa cake but been a bit bemused by it. Something similar happened to me in a soft play with regards to a packet of chocolate buttons. A little boy started begging buttons off my 2 year old. His mum saw what was happening and pretty much told me to give him some or he wouldn't stop.

Personally, I wouldn't ask a stranger for one of their biscuits. I'd have told my little one 'No'.

Also agreed very cheeky. If my dc had kicked up a fuss like that there would have been no biscuit or anything. Often see it with a mum at school, her dd has a tantrum then gets her own way (she's 8 btw) drives me mad.