to think "Get your own fecking swim toys"

[mawbroon]

I feel like a right misery guts, but every time ds1 wanted to use one of the toys that we had brought to the pool today, I had to go and fetch them off somebody else.

Fair enough in a family fun session where the pool provides floats etc and it may not be clear which belong to the pool and which belong to individuals, but when there is one noodle, one diving ring and one ball lying on the poolside AIBU to expect people to leave them alone? Or are other peoples swim toys fair game??

YABU

Unless they refused to give them back

They are not psychic?

Kids will borrow them when you're in a public pool. Some parents do tell their children not to touch them, some won't.

If you don't want them being touched, don't bring them, or just keep them close.

you need to write on them in permanent marker or label with sticky plasters so that it is obvious that they belong to someone not the pool. bloody fustating though.

Thing is kids of a certain age grab things and the parents may not know whether they are provided or not. Did anyone say "no" to giving them back?

At our local pool you can borrow things like that.

Maybe they thought they belonged to the pool?

You might need to write your name on them in big letters with a sharpie if you want to have a chance to have them left alone, even then other children won't understand.

Write your name on them for next time that's what I used to do for holidays etc

Guard them with your life and shout feck off thats mine. (In your best Father Ted voice).
Or you could teach your children to share..

NObody objected to giving them back, but it wasn't just kids who took them.

They were the only things lying around. The pool provides floats and stuff during the official family sessions, but this was just a normal swimming session and ours were the only toys by the poolside.

What aquashiv says...because she has aqua in her name

Therefore she knows about all things watery and the like.

OP, how were people to know they didn't belong to the pool?

It might not be clear to them that they're only provided during family sessions.

Also it's not unheard of for the pool attendants to forget to put a couple of things away.

People probably didn't realise. My dd has picked up stuff like that before, how is she, or I supposed to know when the pool provides that stuff anyway. You are being unreasonable.

So you actually had to make conversation with other people? Do they do private pool hire?

How on earth were they supposed to know? Lying on the side unused usually manes... OK to use.

OK, the main drift is "how were people to know"

Let say I write names on it in huge letters.

Imagine the initial scenario again, this time with marked toys. Would IBU?

They probably thought they belonged to the pool. You need to label them with your name in permanent marker pen .

I would have no idea that 'swim toys' weren't general pool property because there is no guarantee that they will be provided in children's swim times or won't be lying around in general ones.

I think you're being a bit precious tbh. It's like when we go to the park and other children play with DS's scooter. He's not using it so it really doesn't bother me.

Yanu to expect all 2 year olds to read or care.

I probably wouldn't notice you'd put marks on it anyway, I'm not very observant. I'd still assume they belonged to the pool. Sorry

We have 4 diving seals (the ones that "pee") when we get there, one child takes each and 4yr old takes delight in letting other people borrow the other 2 she goes and asks if they would like a shot, and plays with the other children.

Now on the other hand if someone else had a toy she would ask to share/have a wee shot.

As my son says 'sharing is caring'.

If your son wasn't using them what harm is it?

YABU, share.

I think actually, even with names written on you are unreasonable, unless there is a special reason why your child can't share toys - like a rubber float allergy or something (clutching at straws).

I would assume they belonged to the pool TBH.

I doubt I'd read the writing and just assume it said "Property of the swimming pool"

Just keep the toys inside the pool with you if you don't like the idea of sharing them...though personally I can't see the harm in sharing.

We went to the pool once with the DDs toys. Other children played with them. When they vanished I had to look after them in the showers to retrieve them. The girls who took them were 8-9. Their mother smiled serenely and said 'oh, they're yours? Bless you'.