To be pissed off that exp is moving his new gf in, next door?

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We split up 15months ago after a 12 year relationship, have we have 2dd's (3&6) and I have ds (15). We owned two houses, next door to each other, so he got the smaller finished one, I got the larger,half renovated one. He sees DD's one overnight midweek, one overnight and one day every weekend. He refuses to see DS, and vv.
There is history of EA and his abuse towards DS.
He introduced DD's to new gf in feb, (he didn't tell me he was gong to do this, or that he had done it, I only found out when DD1 told me, after half an hours hysterical crying from DD2 on there return one weekend).
Last week he announced his engagement on fb, and told DD's, but again no word to me.
Today DD told me gf is moving I with him. I am, to say the least, feeling a wee bit stressed about the whole thing.

Am I unreasonable in thinking he is an insensitive, unreasonable, arsehole, towards DD's, his new fiancé, and me?

Kind of feel like going and bashing something, really really hard.

OMG he sounds worse with each post you make!

It makes you wonder if the girlfriend is really that happy to move in with her new boyfriend who happens to live next door to his ex girl friend - I can't say many girl friends would be to happy about this.

befriend her when he is not there and never ever slag him off or mention him that would get his goat

Lol, I know, I can't imagine anyone being willing to do that, and if it were the other way round and I had fond a bloke, I wouldn't want to put him in such an uncomfortable position by asking him to move in with me, i think it is just too big an ask of someone you care about.

If I ever have the opportunity to speak to her I will most certainly be über-nice, and very careful of what I say! My women's aid wifey asked if I would like her to put some leaflets through the door for her future reference.

DD1 invited me to their wedding this evening. Would love to see their faces if she tells them that!

Cutegirilla, the worst thing is I didn't realise how bad until after he left, and I do sit and wonder why on earth I didn't pay attention to the huge red flags that were flapping all over our relationship for years. Even when other people pointed them out, I still didn't recognise them for what they were, made excuses for him, said that when this or that life hurdle was over he would be back to the person I first met. It took life getting easier (businesses going well, money slightly less tight, kids doing well in school, renovations with an end in sight) but his behaviour getting increasingly worse instead of better for the penny to finally drop (not to mention the loan of the Lundy book) and for me to finally see the person he REALLY is.

Wow how many people in this thread completely missed the point? She's bloody well entitled to be pissed off, it's nothing to do with her wanting him

OP, you aren't being unreasonable, I wouldn't like to be in this sitch. Just stay strong and hold your head up high

What is a women's aid WIFEY?

A woman who works for WA. It's local dialect.