Should 12 year old ds be allowed to sign for parcel?

[MamaMaiasaura]

In bed with Baby who's feeding and sleeping. Door bell goes followed by hammering on door. Ds (12 years) was worried about answering it, as hammering continued. He did answer it and delivery man (loo seat I think). Ds1 said he'd take parcel and man wanted signature. Wouldn't accept ds's and wanted me to stop feeding baby to sign for it. Told Ds quietly that I couldn't, which he told man. So man has taken package away and put note through door (no idea yet what it says). Slammed letter box, and gate and van door really hard :-(

I can understand why they wanted someone other than a 12 year old to sign for parcel as norm have to be 18? But he could have shown some leniency and certainly no excuse for slamming and generally being rude!

I always thought it had to be an adult signing for a parcel?

Saying that, I would send my DS to sign if I was busy - althoug he is 14 and looks 20 - so would get away with it.

Sigh ... looks like a trip down to the post office depot thingy for you then...... grrr

The next delivery lady has let my 4 year old sign altho I was obviously there with him.

I would take great exception at a delivery man telling me to stop breast feeding my child. Just because he has chosen that moment to deliver your parcel it doesn't mean that you have to jump when he says jump, silly man. I would complain to the courier company, he sounds a nob

Couldn"t delivery man pass thing to sign for your DS to bring to you? Or accept your verbal assurance and DS's signature? I'm sure my DS (now just 13) has signed for things before - Delivery man must have been having a bad day!

Oh and I have a little sign that says "please so not ring bell, baby sleeping" that my lovely neighbour bought me.

Why are some people such rude bastards?

I can remember signing for things when I was a teenager...maybe things have changed. I could understand if the deliver man had been made aware that he was delivering a valuable item, but you'd think with you shouting down to him, that he would be lenient...

Rules are rules I suppose.

If you don't want people ringing your doorbell, why order goods to be delivered?

I will complain. Got to think how to word it. In fairness he had given ds the signing thing to bring to me, but dd laying on my arm and I'd have had to move her and stop nursing to sign it.

yanbu i would have been so annoyed! 12 year old and you were in the house able to shout through to him, should have been absolutely fine.

i have had delivery people happy to give stuff to my 3 year old if i shout down to them to do so (i dont normally get the dc to deal with opening door etc just one off here n there, before anyone flames me for that)

oldladykbowsnorhing ? Ii don't mind people delivering to my house. Are you his wife

definitely complain.

he knew you were there and had given consent to your DS to sign.

ps - it's dead easy to sign while BFing (i do it almost every day - you just make a squiggle with the pen - as long as they take your name, it's fine )

Mama given that he had passed the signing thingy to you I think YABU to not have got DS to sign it when the man wasn't looking not to have signed it with your spare hand.

I didn't shout down as dd asleep/feeding. I told ds that I couldn't sign for it as feeding baby and that ds could on my behalf. It's clearly addresses to our home and I heard ds confirm our name. It's probably against company regulations or something. But the whole slamming etc was unnecessary IMO

Yea I should have squiggled a line with free but non writing hand or got ds1 to bugger. I think I was a bit at the whole hammering riiiiiiinnggggg hanmmeribg riiiinnngggg

If you wanted the parcel then you are being unreasonable. Put baby in your sons arms for the 2 seconds it takes to sign!!! As it is you will now have to arrange a redelivery but of course an adult needs to sign.

reshelen I'd dearly love to, and really wish I could. Except this little monkey has super senses and it had taken an age to settle her. As soon as I edge away from her at all her eyes snap open and often desperate abandoned crying starts... So yup I guess IABU that once she's asleep, I'll do all I can to keep t that way. Not too worried about loo seat (dh ordered it). If it was chocolate I might feel differently

zzzzzz eek I think I'd of actually screamed.

YABU, that you couldn't sign for it, once DS had brought it to you.

As he gave you the thingy to sign, you should have just signed it, BF or not, so sorry, YABU.

My 12yr old has signed for lots of parcels, some of them not even for us but for the neighbours! From several different delivery people too.

I quite like shopping on t'internet

New loo seat is to replace the one I broke . I slammed lid down over jubilee weekend after not even getting 5 minutes peace to poo. Dh has ordered soft close one that are impossible to slam. (this is second order as I did similar 6 months ago to ensuite one )