Should 12 year old ds be allowed to sign for parcel?

[MamaMaiasaura]

In bed with Baby who's feeding and sleeping. Door bell goes followed by hammering on door. Ds (12 years) was worried about answering it, as hammering continued. He did answer it and delivery man (loo seat I think). Ds1 said he'd take parcel and man wanted signature. Wouldn't accept ds's and wanted me to stop feeding baby to sign for it. Told Ds quietly that I couldn't, which he told man. So man has taken package away and put note through door (no idea yet what it says). Slammed letter box, and gate and van door really hard :-(

My dh is a courier and they get sacked for the slightest thing- majority are self employed so don't have the beauty of hr or disciplinary procedures. Therefore they have to follow all the rules with no leeway. He doesn't make the rules, the company he works for/is contracted to do. Yabu as he did all he could do, and most delivery men slam their van doors to ensure it's shut properly, and bang hell out the door as otherwise they get complaints along the line of "he didn't knock".

YABU.

You could use your phone in one hand, so you were clearly trying to make some kind of point about breastfeeding and how everyone should revolve around that. The man has his rules to follow. If you don't like them you can go and collect your parcel, as you'll have to now.

I still don't understand why you didn't sign when the damn thing was under your nose.
I'd also give up asking for home deliveries for the moment too.

It could back fire on them if anything went wrong-the signature of a 12yr old is fairly meaningless. I would just have signed-much simpler than having to get it now.

Lol @ aribu oh yes that was clearly what this was about. Really actually laughing here because that has to be the most ridiculous statement I have read. I will not sign for parcels as I making a breastfeeding statement

Right back to reality, which is that I really didn't want to wake dd. And ds1 coming up and wanting me to take big black thingy in one hand and sign with other, really would have woken her. I was BU as I should have tried to get ds to old box thing while I scrawled but I was too busy keeping dd asleep and not wanting to have I explain I ds to hold it (he'd have prob dropped it on dd ).

I have since found out that the guy asked if mum or dad home. He said yes mum upstarts feeding baby. Courier said, well can she come out and sign for this. Ds said no, the baby is asleep. He said how can as be feeding a sleeping baby. Ds said well she is. He then said well take this up for her to sign. Aalto when he arrived straight after long held ring on door bell, he was hammering door so hard (according to ds1) that the letter box was flapping. Ds2 hates loud noises as it is (asd) but courier wouldn't know any of this of course. I do think, however, there is no need to hammer on someone's door etc.

Lol at length of this post. Doesn't really matter. They are re delivering on Monday and if I'm not in will leave by front door. Fuck knows why they couldn't therefore leave it with ds.

The Next delivery driver allowed my 5 year old to sign for a parcel that was for next door. I was on the loo and didn't hear her knock. DD answered (I have explained again that she is NOT to answer the door ever!) and said I was upstairs but she would take them in. The delivery driver thought that was good enough consent and off loaded 4 items. One of which was a huge (as in nearly filled my kitchen) garden umbrella - like they have above tables at pubs in the summer.
I was not impressed that she didn't ask DD to go get me/ check with mummy first.
I guess she assumed I would be fine with it, as I take in parcels for next door at least once a week. Just wish she had checked I was fine with it first.

YABU - you couldn't stop for 2 seconds to sign? I don't wonder the bloke got in a strop!

"Oh and I have a little sign that says "please so not ring bell, baby sleeping" that my lovely neighbour bought me. "

Is ringing the bell more likely to wake the baby than someone hammering on the door?

Thing being, in my house, you do have to knock pretty loudly (what you might call 'hammer') on the door if you want me to hear it. How is a delivery driver to know about all the different potential volumes in different houses ? Some people have doors shut / are listening to music / have nodded off / are a bit hard of hearing. How annoying if you were in to find you'd missed a delivery because he didn't make it clear he was there. They can't win, can they ?

Fires up BBQ in pissing rain flame away

I'd have thought please do not ring, baby sleeping would give the hint that it included battering door.

Really tho, it doesn't matter hugely and I've moved on already.

Re different houses needing different knocks. Hadn't really thought about that to be fair, so yes can see that POV. I live in a crappy Barratts so could hear the lightest knock. As it was, he didn't wake her. She sleeps deeper than ds2, but since found he is very sensitive to sound and one of his issues with ASD

There is every need to hammer loudly. Because of the complaints that couriers get about delivering a card when the customer was 'in', when in reality it is because their bell doesn't work and/or they are watching Jeremy Kyle too loudly and they didn't hear it.

YANBU

If DS was on his own then I can see a problem, but if delivery man knows an adult is in he's just being an arse.

If you dont want people knocking on your door don't order things to be delivered to your home.

Oh and my hearing isn't great so I get very arsed with tiny tap and leave a card.

If the cars in the drive I'm probably in. House in middle of no where.

Am I the only one enjoying the irony of OP complaining about delivery driver "slamming" gate etc when he was trying to deliver a replacement for the loo seat OP broke...by slamming?

fireandashes I know. I'll blame dh for not letting me have 5 minutes peace from dc so I could have a poo .

buntingbunny of house in middle of nowhere. I want one cos I am an antisocial grump