To think when you get to a certain age, you have to choose between your figure or your face as you can't have both

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Someone told me this the other day, it had never occurred to me before. So basically if you keep your figure, your face looks a bit haggard. Or if you have a bit more weight on your body, your face looks better. Is this true? So which one will you be/are? Or Aibu?

I had no wrinkles at all until I lost weight. Now have Many. There's no wrinkles on a balloon!

It's true for me. Particularly after having DD (and God knows what it'll be like after DC2 arrives), any weight I put on goes round my middle. I have a nice little pot belly, and if I lose enough weight to get rid of it, my face looks too thin. And "just do crunches" doesn't help; you can have ab muscles of steel, but if it's covered in 6" of flab it's all for nought.

Botox

Be skinny and get botoxed.

Problem solved.

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There's some truth in this. If you don't think there is I'm wondering how old you are because IME once you hit the menopause it's a whole different ball game.

course not name anyone in the world thats ever looked good with a fat face

It's not necessarily that you get wrinkles.
When I lose weight I always look quite gaunt from the shoulders/decolletage upwards even though I'm not thin.

So it's figure v the scrawny neck look.

That's what scarves are for...

also your only 36 you wont have wrinkles if you lose weight now your too young

What saggar said. I was an old-style, i.e. real size 10 for most of my life and now a new style 12. 9 stone used to be porky for me, but if I go below that now I look like I've swallowed a coat hanger.

Not grumbling, though as I'm still slim at 57, and got my dear dead mum's ace face bones. :)

I think a layer of fat is a good thing. Someone I know shifted a lot of weight and she looks much older now(she is only 50). She looked so much healthier with a few extra pounds on her. She looks guant. But she is quite an extreme example, and a sun worshipper.

I don't think you have to choose. Pick a middle ground and keep both! Tis my plan anyway.....it's Friday, I'm off for a crunchie.....

also my mum is 57 8 stone and facial looks mid 40s but its clean living.She has never smoked, doesnt sunbathe, never overate ,walks everywhere ,uses factor 15, daily good genes,hardly ever drank etc

I think the point is keeping a healthy weight and accepting as you age that that might be the middle of the band and a dress size bigger than when you were in your 20's.

The school Mum's who are happy to look a bit Mumsy look far pretty, youthful and relaxed than the thinest ones.

However, I think that's because our thinest Mum's are the slightly stressy neurotic ones to start with.

also my mum is 57 8 stone and facial looks mid 40s but its clean living.She has never smoked, doesnt sunbathe, never overate ,walks everywhere ,uses factor 15, daily good genes,hardly ever drank etc

Glad I don't know her, she would not be my friend.

there is some truth in this

my ultra skinny mates look a bit older FACT

but if you have the $ for botox .la prairie and chemicals peels you can have both (ish..)

mayisout - she stills gets pissed shes just a proper lightweight she also always eating out but if you are not a disordered eater you eat just enough so no need to diet ime. This quote applies only to fat people who lose weight as you either have to put up with the weight or lose it and have looser skin and wrinkles.

I have just lost 3 stone (still got about 2 stone more to lose) and I look better. I look younger than my age (47) according to other people. I have lost the weight steadily, at about a pound a week, and my skin seems to be relaxing back rather than getting baggy. No extra wrinkles yet.
I think there is a middle ground where you are a healthy weight but have enough fat tissue to stop you looking gaunt.

Nope - I have a nice face and figure (well I think so anyway) and I look younger than my 41 years, or so I'm told.

Botox! Changed my life. For the first time since I was 15, havent neen told I look tired. Have been 10 stone and 13 stone but people still say I look well.

Really, who makes up this stuff?

You are either blessed with youthful genes or you aren't (though a healthier lifestyle, without booze, fags and drugs helps).

Its bollocks.

I can't believe anyone actually buys into this crap.

I think if you are very thin, partiularly when achieved by strict food limitation and/or extremely high levels of exercise (as opposed from it being your natural state), then no matter how much botox you have, the angles of your face are harder and thus you look older.

At least that is what I have observed.

Hm. My 90 yr old gran has both.

Botox is amazing. £350 ish every 5 months ish keeps you looking rested. Can't express how fantastic it is.