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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Re my kids and food?

156 replies

rogersmellyonthetelly · 07/06/2012 18:54

Bought mc d's on the way home from a day out, dished up, left kids (5 and 7) in the kitchen eating, I went to sort some stuff out in laundry. Kids come in 10 minutes later big smiles saying they had eaten all their tea. Immediately suspicious as the dog was hanging around and it normally takes them forever to eat, I asked if they had given it to the dog. Dd (5 and has form for lying) says no, ds who is generally more honest said yes. Turns out they ate about half a burger and a bag of chips between them.
I am fuming, not only at the wasted food (i could so have eaten the burger) but at the lie from dd. to make things worse while giving kids a good bollocking about wasting food I said the happy meals cost £2.99 each, to which ds said £2.99, that's nothing. I have therefore made him take £2.99 out of his money box, likewise for dd. I have also sent dd to bed half an hour early for lying.
I have also not allowed them to have anything else to eat, if they are hungry perhaps they will start to value the food that's dished up to them!

OP posts:
WhosPickleisThatOnion · 07/06/2012 23:08

Well you said earlier on that if you post on aibu you ask for what you get, and if people don't like it go to net huns?

You were happy to pile in at the start when you though the op was going to get a pasting for giving kids macdonalds so you can't really complain that it's gone the other way.

pictish · 07/06/2012 23:13

Lettuce - the OP didn't ask for our opinion on what she gave her kids to eat, and neither did she ask for advice about how to change it. You were rude.

sensuallettuce · 07/06/2012 23:15

I didn't "pile in" I made an off the cuff remark about Mc fucking Donalds - which I stand by remark is shit.

The OP never got a pasting - I did for voicing my opinions - and I am basing my opinions of what I have experienced in working with children.

I am sure the OP feeds her kids a wonderful diet the rest of the month Hmm.

But actually as many have pointed out this isn't what the thread was about anyway :)

sensuallettuce · 07/06/2012 23:16

And other threads don't go off what the OP originally posted about? No of course they don't.

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 07/06/2012 23:21

Your constantly insinuating the ops kids have a bad diet your even doing it now!

You have been contradicting yourself throughout this thread. And now a few people disagree with you it's bullying?
Ridiculous.

pictish · 07/06/2012 23:23

YABU to feed them Mcdonalds esp as its obvs not a treat as they didn't want it?!

Not 'off the cuff', so much as haughty and presumptuous. Really. Yours is 2nd post in.

sensuallettuce · 07/06/2012 23:30

I didn't over think that remark hence it bing off the cuff.

Think there is mass over analysis of my remaks tbh.

Anyway am hiding this thread now as its ridiculous.

pictish · 07/06/2012 23:31

Night then.

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 07/06/2012 23:55

That's what happens when you contradict yourself people tend to notice.

Hard not too.

Night!

Moominsarescary · 08/06/2012 00:04

Your experiance is children eating mcd twice a month will have behavioural problems? Nope I don't buy that at all

Needingsomeadvice · 08/06/2012 07:36

A lot of villification of MacDonalds on this site, but I think that most of us wouldn't go so far to suggest it causes behavioural problems. HOW?!?! The food they serve in there is just food! Certainly I wouldn't feed my children MacDonalds every day, but twice a month is hardly child abuse! If we go to MacDonalds DCs can eat items they would find at home (fishfingers, apple and grape slices, semi-skimmed milk, etc. It really isn't anything evil from a food point of view. Such snobbery.
FWIW, I didn't take my older DS to MacDonalds ever until he was about 2.5 and it occurred that of all the eateries there were in a row the MacDonalds would be the more child-friendly and also reasonably-priced of the lot. The Nandos was lovely but expensive, the Starbucks did have some good options but mostly snacky and overpriced. I hadn't been in MacD's for about 4 years (had gone on a major diet before having DS) but was quite happy with the healthier selection that had appeared since.
Since that day I still don't tend to take DCs in there but if we are passing one and looking for food it might be an option with 2 DCs. They have reasonable taste in food and prefer Spud u like and Subway, supermarket cafes etc, and I often find that Spud or Sainsburies (etc) do a better quality kids' meal deal, but I will take them under the golden arches if that's the best option available.
OP, YANBU for any of it and I would probably have done the same re:punishment. You were not punishing the eating/not eating but the lying, the feeding it to the dog and the casual disrespect for the cost of the food. IMO you dealt with it well.

seeker · 08/06/2012 07:53

"Normally if kids are having Mcdonalds or any junk food at this age twice a month (that's what the OP admits to) you can bet the rest of their diet isn't that great either.

Crap food does cause behaviour problems. For very obvious reasons."

Not true and not true!

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 08/06/2012 08:14

So that's for one McDonald's a month then?

Before I waste my time looking?

Sirzy · 08/06/2012 08:25

There are some very big conclusions being jumped to here.

The occasional mcdonalds says nothing about someone's diet overall except that they like the occasional mcdonalds.

I would say telling children certain foods are bad/ banned is much worse than a bit of what you fancy every so often

SPsFanjoHarboursDeadCats · 08/06/2012 08:45

OP I would have maybe done the same. Why ask for something then feed it to the dog and then lie about it? If I had of done that when I was younger my mum wouldn't have been happy.

Ignore the food snobs on here. Feed your kids what you want. I doubt your making them live of McDonald's

SPsFanjoHarboursDeadCats · 08/06/2012 08:48

Also the next time they ask for one either say no or have then share a happy meal. Get the gherkin next time too Grin

I'm hungry for a McDonald's now

FanjoForHerMajesty · 08/06/2012 08:52

If your kids have behavioural/eating problems you can often be happy if they eat anything at all, so you shouldn't really be all holier than thou or huffy about it IMO.

Re the OP, YABU a bit, maybe they weren't hungry, would you like to be punished if you didn't want your whole meal,.they probably lied to avoid an OTT reaction like the one you had.

FanjoForHerMajesty · 08/06/2012 08:53

I meant judgy and my phone changed it to huffy, that bit was to SensualLettuce

FanjoForHerMajesty · 08/06/2012 08:56

Also, my DD eats chicken selects and fries once a week and the rest of her diet is not 'crap' by any means , what a simplistic assumption

FanjoForHerMajesty · 08/06/2012 08:57

(Not food snobbery re the selects but she has egg allergy and they are only thing without it)

LurkingAndLearningForNow · 08/06/2012 09:04

I wish I'd had the courage to call child services on my mother the few times a month we got a pizza or KFC or Maccas...It's clearly why I have such anxiety problems today. :(

But I just wasn't strong enough dammit! Wink The taste fades, but the unforgettable trauma lives on...

CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 08/06/2012 09:36

FFS!

All this shite on mumsnet about McDonald's. It just stupid!

I'm trying to diet here people! Stop sabotaging my good work!

Ps. YANBU

I would have taken the money if DS had said that. It's about h learning the value of something you've paid for. And yes to DD getting a sanction for lying.

Moominsarescary · 08/06/2012 09:37

All the links refer to children with ADHD

seeker · 08/06/2012 09:57

And refer to malnutrition and/ are written by cranks.