To think I should have been consulted...

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Before ILs gave DH a skydive voucher for his birthday?

We have 3 dc under 7 and an 21wks pg with dc4. I don't know whether this is hormones blowing risk out of proportion....

Am severely miffed because the idea of even a tiny risk is too much right now! So...AIBU??

I know I'm in the minority here, but I would be like you about this! Especially when pg.

oh, I see! Well in the case I think YABU and a bit hormonal!

What are all these ' hormones' everyone is blaming?

YourHormonesABU

Ever been pregnant Anyone? Ok, some women don't get it, but at least half of my friends were like me and became more weepy and fearful during pregnancy.

YABU

He's your DH, not your DS.

And I don't the mahoosive amount of hormone blaming on MN either

It's like you can be as unreasonable as you want as long as you blame hormones

I think YABU a bit...however if I was pregnant I would probably be worried sick while he was doing it, so I understand why you're worried. It's something I'd love to do though.

Ah - but you feel the way you feel, then you deal with it. Whether it is affected by hormones, weather, other people - whatever. There is no point in the world just saying don't blame the hormones. Or justifying the way you feel on the basis of hormones. They're just important background to bear in mind. Sigh.

But I still think OP's in-laws could have spoken to her about it beforehand to help avoid any such anxiety. And I hope they buy you a voucher for your next birthday as well OP!

YABU - he has more chance of getting run over so maybe you need to stop him crossing the road!

Yep blame the hormones though :)

YANBU. Why risk your life for a quick thrill?

I don't think women do themselves any favours saying 'blame the hormones'

Not all of us have this issue

YANBU to insist on proper insurance. Then you will both be happy

YABU, maybe I'm biased as I used to skydive, but I assume it's a tandem jump which is very safe. It's up to him to decide (and discuss with you) if/when he wants to do it. If you feel very anxious about it, then raise that with him.

I would not be impressed if DH insisted that my relatives 'consult' him before being allowed to buy me a present!

YANBU. Why risk your life for a quick thrill?

True. In fact, why risk anything? Why risk eating rare steak that could give you food poisoning? Why risk getting married when you could end up divorced? Why risk having a drink when it could make you fall into the road on the way home? Why risk meeting a friend for a coffee when she could be harbouring a contagious disease?

A quick thrill is yet another thing that someone might consider worth the risk, having weighed up how safe it actually is statistically, rather than the knee-jerk reaction of 'Falling out of a plane will kill you'.

YABU. (But understandably)

YABU, but it's his decision as to whether he'll actually use it. I hope he'd listen to your anxieties (not unreasonable anxiety, IMO, and of course pregnancy makes many people feel more vulnerable).

Was your DH thrilled? If he's never mentioned a burning desire to throw himself out of a plane before, he may not get around to doing it. IMO it's a bit of a strange present.

YANBU. At all.
Yes, it is irresponsible.

And things do indeed go wrong. My brother's friend (then a young man with no kids to consider) died skydiving.

I'd think it was crap if they gave him a motorcycle too, for that matter.

Well thank god some of you can see where i'm coming from! We shall see whether he ever actually gets it together to book medical, have medical then book Jump... Then start worrying lol

yanbu!!!!

I am very risk averse and I think people that do shit like this are mad

I do work in HSE though.....

and for this comment: Why risk eating rare steak that could give you food poisoning? Why risk getting married when you could end up divorced? Why risk having a drink when it could make you fall into the road on the way home? Why risk meeting a friend for a coffee when she could be harbouring a contagious disease?

They are NOT comparable! how can you compare them to a very high risk activity that frequently kills people (sorry OP!)

Skydiving does not 'frequently' kill people.

Mind you, I think YANBU, but not because of the danger, because it's all a bit of a palaver getting the medical done, the training, potentially waiting all day for the right weather - quite an overhead with a number of kids to look after. I've given DH a jump for his birthday, but 1 that's what he wanted, and 2 I'm the one who will take the hit when he buggers off for however long to do it (and 2a, we only have one 8yo DD).

I don't know if this is reassuring to you or not, but for tandem parachute jumps (which I assume this is), the British Parachute Association say "The fatality rate is about 0.3 per 100,000 jumps (1 in 300,000)" (i.e. 0.0003%).

Yabu his parents got him a gift they don't need to consult you Or anyone what they buy there son

Agree with Porcamiseria.
Every day risks are part of life it would cause more problems to try and avoid them, but skydiving is not comparable to food poisoning - not in my universe anyway.

Do you have to have a medical now? I never did, though maybe that's age-related (I was 19-20 at the time).

For me I think the risk is acceptable as a one-off, but it's not something I'd do as a regular hobby any more, I've become a bit more risk-averse with age and also can't afford the expense and time!