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Original poster

To have a nice bitch about my ILs

36 replies

lurkedtoolong · 06/06/2012 20:21

I know that in the grand scheme of things I have perfectly decent in-laws. They aren't mean, they don't over-interfere and they don't treat me badly. But currently on holiday with them and after a few days I just need to vent......

The words are ASK not AST, and BINOCULARS not BINOKLEURS.

Stop asking me what random buildings are on the other side of the motorway. We're in a country I've never been in before, why the fuck would I know what some random office block is.

Just stop fucking cackling - my head can't deal with it.

And for fuck sake learn how far a kilometre is - when we tell you next turn off is in 6 kilometres then don't slam on brakes and ask "Is that this one?"

.... and breathe....

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Gravity1 · 06/06/2012 20:23

Think you are very brave for holidaying with the ILs therefore occasional rantings definitely allowed Grin

Must be time for a G&T surely? That should help!

HecateTrivia · 06/06/2012 20:24

Grin heehee. I have been driven to the edge by the words mushtashe, fieth, pacific and should of, could of, would of

(not the inlaws)

It is a totally trivial thing that shouldn't matter at all and makes us utterly unreasonable... but it still makes you grind your teeth to tiny little stubs. Grin

MsKittyFane · 06/06/2012 20:25

Bitch away! As long as you don't mind your DH doing the same about your nearest and dearest!

PurplePidjin · 06/06/2012 20:26

Can't help with everything but 6km is 3.6 miles (my car is lhd and the speedo's in km)

10km is 6 miles (well, 6.25)
20km is 12 miles
30km is 18m
40km is 24m
Etc. Just move the decimal point left a place to get distance.

The mental arithmetic amuses me when stuck in traffic Hmm

ImperialBlether · 06/06/2012 20:28

Oh just tell them 1 km is 1/2 a mile. Don't go into such detail.

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lurkedtoolong · 06/06/2012 20:28

MisKitty - I do the same about my parents. DH doing the same wouldn't bother me at all.

The G&T comment has reminded me that we have bought some gorgeous, expensive wine from a local winery and MIL has bought some lemonade to have with the wine, refusing to buy a cheap bottle of plonk to spoil dilute

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RaPaPaPumPumBootyMum · 06/06/2012 20:29

Oh dear.

I can appreciate they are irritating but as you say, in the grand scheme of things this is small stuff.

I wonder if they are currently on Gransnet AIBU posting "Our DIL seems annoyed by everything we do and say and the tense atmosphere is spoiling our holiday. She even holds her breath and goes purple like she's about to explode. But we are what we are and can't see what we can do differently to make her happy... AIBU?"

Grin

But if it is tension releasing please keep posting here about the in-laws. Just try not to explode and keep breathing!

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lurkedtoolong · 06/06/2012 20:32

RaPaPa - I'm sure they probably are thinking that. I know I can be a nippy old cow at times but if I don't rant somewhere I may throw them over a cliff....

:o

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AdoraBell · 06/06/2012 20:32

Jesus, you're on holiday with the ILs! We once did the adjacent camp site, never again, NEVER!

I would rather spend two weeks wandering lost in a desert than holiday with the IL, you are a very brave woman.

Gravity1 · 06/06/2012 20:33

And most important advice of all...just dont ever think 'OMG - my DH will be just like this in 30 years!'

Unless he is like my DH, in which case its happening already Confused

TheTeaPig · 06/06/2012 20:35

passes copious glasses of Wine Wine WineWine Wine

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lurkedtoolong · 07/06/2012 01:54

Well mumsnet you were no use. I finally snapped, caused tears. FIL refusing to even sit on the same sofa as me and everyone treating MIL like a china vase. All because I said I wouldn't waste a £20 bottle of wine by putting in lemonade that cost 60p for ten cans.

You were supposed to stop me being a nippy pus.

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tartyflette · 07/06/2012 02:08

Jesus, lurked, that's criminal. (Them, not you.) Tell 'em to get a cheap bottle of plonk if they want to to put lemonade in it. ffs. (Sangria, I take it? )

Original poster
lurkedtoolong · 07/06/2012 02:27

We did suggest a nice bottle of hock for mixing but they too tightfisted didn't want to buy another bottle.

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izzyizin · 07/06/2012 03:32

If you pour tiny tots of £20 vino into tumblers or large wine glasses and top up with gaseosa lemonade for them surely that means you get the queen bee's lion's share of the bottle?

FallenCaryatid · 07/06/2012 06:00

Surely they can drink their portion of wine with lemonade and you can drink yours neat? What's the problem with that?

NicNocJnr · 07/06/2012 06:22

Lurked - I would say Hurrah mission accomplished, FIL staging protest by avoidance and so you can enjoy time without them! Sadly I know full well what a pain in the arse it probably is now.
I'd at least have gone the whole hog and told them to stop being tightarses with their own money whilst not giving a crap about mine by ruining a £20 bottle.
But I can't stand my ILs. Also it's not fair to insist you have a shabby time pandering to them and making big displays over their stone cold ignorance outgoing ways when they could just as easily wind their bloody necks in tone in down a bit. Did I mention I hate my ILs? I don't think anyone would guess.

In all seriousness it was bound to happen at some point, at least it's only this they're over-reacting about and not something serious. It'll all come out in the wash, chin up.

FallenCaryatid · 07/06/2012 06:29

It just seems like such a teenager-type squabble to have. Confused

WinkyWinkola · 07/06/2012 06:44

On holiday with in laws? V. good of you. And there's bound to be a few snippy snips. That's normal.

I'm doing the same in July. Not that they ever offered the same to Dh's parents but you'd think they were so entitled.

Nanny0gg · 07/06/2012 08:40
WinkyWinkola · 07/06/2012 09:15

Yes. Lovely dils who take their in laws on holiday with them.

Here comes the automatic mil defender brigrade! Grin

"My mil thumped my dd"

"Be grateful she's showing interest. Shell be dead one day and THEN you'll be sorry."

"My fil says breastfeeding is disgusting and I'm starving my child."

"Gosh. You ll be a mil / fil one day. Think how you'll feel when you can't make your snide comments without being pulled up on it."

Sheesh.

FallenCaryatid · 07/06/2012 09:19

'Yes. Lovely dils who take their in laws on holiday with them'

The Op paid for her ILs to go with them? You have insider knowledge?
Seriously though, squabbling over a bottle of wine and a few reasonably daft questions and a bit of pronunciation? WTF?
Does OP have children? She's not very good at not sweating the small stuff if she has.

WinkyWinkola · 07/06/2012 09:20

Does it matter if she paid or not? Taking irritating people on precious holiday with you is a big deal.

And I don't think the op is being particularly serious.

ladymariner · 07/06/2012 09:20

If they're so annoying why on earth did you go on holiday with them in the first place?

RobotLover68 · 07/06/2012 09:20

When they ask about random buildings - just make something up! How are they going to know any different - you could amuse yourself no end by doing this Grin