to be p***** off by

[dippedcremeegg]

my DH? We have fallen out and now he has decided to cut my housekeeping by almost half!!!! Childish or what?

It depends what the reasons are. We need more Info.

Are you living in a timewarp?
Your "housekeeping" ? Why don't you have independent access to money?

Is he honestly punishing you by withholding money you need for the household food?

Because that wouldn't be childish. It would be abusive.

Why?

Housekeeping? Is it not "our" money? Are you his wife or house keeper?

If this is indeed true, isn't he cutting his nose off to spite his face?

Isn't "housekeeping" used for food and bills etc?

So don't feed him - you've only got enough for you and the DCs if you have them.

Is this true or is this about the other thread?

there is another thread?

Agree you don't feed him.

Maybe he's decided he doesn't want to live in the past and had decided to buy his own food.

Buy/do nothing for him.

Depriving you of money, because you don't agree with him, is abusive. I'd be thinking divorce, right now.

thread about a thread?

before I waste my time giving a genuine reply, if there is a thread out there that this is in response to, could someone link it? ta.

Well it depends whether 'housekeeping' is just for the home or money for you to spend as you wish on clothes/ lunches etc. Also depends how much he gives you. If he's cutting £2000 by half it's a bit different to if he's cutting £200 by half.

depends on so many things

Hec advanced search tells me this is the only post by this poster. Could be name changer, of course.

need more information before replying.

My response would depend on the situation - for example if you've run up £100's on CC (clothes, pamper days etc) and the money is cut to pay this off but you can still afford food etc then it's totally different than him witholding money from you because you disagree with him.

There's nothing wrong with "housekeeping" but everything wrong if it's withheld. That comes under the title of "financial abuse". Other posters are right - if you only have half the money you can't feed DH. Nor can you prioritise any household bills which are in his name alone.

No Graham there's nothing wrong with housekeeping but OP there is EVERYTHNG wrong with "my" housekeeping.It's not YOURS...it's hs too nd therefore, since he's cut it, I would simply give him half of everything.

Half a dinner, half a breakfast, a half washed shirt...one clean sock and one dirty one....etc.

That is what happens when you don't work, men can control you financially. Being a stay at home mum is under appreciated, and leaves you vulnerable to being controlled . I could never allow myself to be in a position where i have to ask my partner for money that is going to benefit the whole family anyway. Good luck OP

thunder no. It is not what happens usually.

thunder im a SAHM and never have to ask my partner for money we both have equal access to any money

what a stupid post

And once again thunder posts her narrow minded view of SAHMs.

So much for supporting each other's decisions.

TheHouseOnTheCorner, I like your style. :)