To be marginally mortified that I did not handle this well....

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I just walked into my 14 yr old DS's room and caught him having a wank (seriously need to follow my own 'knock and wait' policy ).

We stared at each other for what seen about a million yrs (about a second) and I spluttered 'what are you doing?!' DOH!!!! To which he replied 'Nothing!!' and went red so I told him to tidy his room and left .

He is now in the shower ekkkk!

You broke the number 1 rule of never going near a teen boys room without making alot of noise to fore warn them.

lets hope he doesn't know your mn name or he will be doubly mortified!

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Oh dear

oh no!

He doesn't even know Mumsnet exists he is far too busy looking on the net for much more interesting things .

It's at times like this when time travel becomes possible for both of you....you have both gone back in time and IT NEVER HAPPENED

I dread this day coming.

Luckily sa is in the attic room and his stairs make hell of a noise so he would at least get some warning.

Your poor ds must be mortified.

But in his head -
*you did not KNOW what he was doing

• As you are "Mum" what would you know about it anyway.

In your head
*buy him a sock

He also has an attic room - but the stairs are carpeted - FAIL!! .

What are you going to do next, apologise for going in and tell him it won't happen again, or pretend it never happened?

Hopefully you have learned from this ...

Never, ever walk in on a teenage boy. Ever.

It's not worth the trauma.

Pretend it never happened - clearly.

And in all seriousness, an apolgy for not knocking and waiting might not go amiss.

No need to say anything else. Just "Sorry I didn't knock and wait earlier on".

Imagine if the boot had been on the other foot

Or even an apology

Ah - I have a lock on my bedroom door ;)

I bet your lad is hot-footing it to B&Q as you type ...

No don't apologise...just never speak of that moment again

In his head, he'll be thinking of all sorts of excuses I imagine...my money's on he had an itchy willy.

Put a bolt on the door for him.

Perhaps something along the lines of 'sorry I didn't knock earlier, I didn't mean to embarrass you' by way of an apology, then you never need to talk about it again You don't want the poor lad to think he's doing something awful and wrong!

Even with the knock and wait policy they ignore you and carry on!!! Have lost count of the number of times it's happened to me (walking in on DSS) I knock...I wait...I walk in after no declarations of being busy or to come back later...he goes red...
I have gotten over the embarrassment now, and just say 'oh for gods sake put it away' or something to that affect. We've had the 'please put a sock/hat/anything on your door so I know not to disturb you' etc etc.

It's ok - he knows it's fine we have talked about it before I am quite open with him - not quite THIS open though .

DS2 (13) has a loft bed so I can't see what he's doing up there

I don't think any mother is ready for that level of familiarity with their sons habits! Don't beat yourself up over it then, just carry on. It's good you have an relatively open relationship with him. I'm sure the mental images will fade soon