To think my family are rotten sods?!!

[3cutedarlings]

So so fed up!! just want a rant really, i know im not BU!

Just had a text from my Mother asking we're going to my cousins Jubilee party tomorrow! i knew nothing about it we've not been invited.

In fairness i dont see much of my extended family, well any of my family really. We we're very close at one point but over the years we have drifted, but dont lots of families? I live the opposite side of town to most of my family so the rest of them do see more of each other and they get together quite often, which im fine about.

I was chatting with my Sister on the phone last week, she's getting married next year in greece. I asked who else in the family was going, i mentioned our cousin and my sister she said she was seeing her (the cousin) next Tues so was going to have a chat with her then. Of course i thought nothing of it at the time, till the text from my mum!, so sister is invited along with my mother! but not me and my DH and DC!! . I know for a fact that if my Mum is invited then so are the other aunts/uncles/cousins ect!

I feel like a bloody outcast! i dont know why she has done this!! my DC are a handful, my eldest has ASD and my youngest has a hearing impairment caused by severe glues ear, speech delay and behavioural problems! i think that's why she hasnt invited us!. Its upset me so much, we don't get invited to much anyway, but i never thought my family would be like this How fucking dare she?? and whats more how fucking dare my sister not mention it? why would she and my mum want to go to a party that we hadn't been invited to?.

My Sisters wedding next year is probably going to cost us a fortune, 2 adults and 3 kids for even just a week in Greece is going to cost a fortune. Finding that money isnt going to be easy!! we will have to really tighten our belts and miss out on lots of other things, to be able to go. Im now thinking why the fuck should we? she doesnt give a shit about us anyway!! she cant do!. Do i really want to scimp and scrape go without to spend time with these people?.

Sorry this has turned into an epic rant, i feel like childishly just turning up!! but what would that achieve? .

Are you absolutely sure that everyone else is invited?

Oh, op, Aibu is no place to come where sn's are concerned. People just don't know what it's like to have to plan everything around a child with asd, to see your circle of friends dwindle, to realise that the number of places you can go is getting smaller and smaller, to feel that pain and rage and despair that so many people can't see the gorgeousness of your child or what an amazing parent you are because you HAVE to be.

I'm so lucky that although we've lost all but a handful of understanding friends (and we were super popular, centre of everything people before) my family is still wonderful and go out of their way to include us.

I don't know what to suggest. Focus on people who will love you and support you, and stay away from Aibu, I suppose.