To think we CANNOT send dd1 to my sisters for a week with only three days worth of clothes?

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That is all she has that fits her.

I don't know why I thought she was wearing the same things again and again. I guess I didn't really think about it. She is vair fussy and does tend to stick to a few key outfits.

DH seems to think that me wanting to buy her more clothes and sending them to my sister's house is just me wanting to spend money for the sake of it.

It is the summer holidays soon and she has a grand total of 1 jumper dress, 1 pair of jeans that matches three different tops and 1 leggings and tunic set. And that is it. That is all that is left that still fits the stoopidly fast growing child.

She was in age 7 last summer. She is in age 10 now.

get the child some clothes. my mum went into hospital a lot. my gran came round one time and i heard her telling my dad i only had one thing to wear and no decent underwear. and we were well off. my mum just hadn't bothered.

Get her some clothes. I think sending her a week without a weeks worth of clothes is ok. If sister doesn't mind washing. But if that's all she has for, she needs more.

Lay put all of your DH's clothes and compare to your DD's. Sometimes men don't think in practical terms wrt DCs because they don't do things like buy the clothes or meal plan etc. yes I sound sexist but it's because women tend to deal with that side.

So YANBU. get her more clothes.

YANBU to send her with only 3 outfits, if that's what you mean. She will not need a new outfit each day.

YABU to not buy her some more clothes. Supermarket packs of t-shirts are dead cheap as she is growing so quickly, if money is an issue.

God that's made me feel so bad - I'm annoyed because I can't fit all dd's clothes in her drawers and she has so many that she often gets hardly any wear before she out grows them!!
If your dh thinks its all about the cash what about eBay??? Or primark?

Obviously she has school clothes and party dresses too, but that is the total of 'day' clothes that she has that still fit.

I ony noticed when I asked her to come and pack with me. Everything I got out she claimed did not fit. When she tried them on she was telling the truth

She said she hasn't asked for more things because she likes the things she has and is at school during the week anyway so by the time the weekend comes around again her favourite clothes have been washed, ready to wear again. But that is not going to help in the summer holidays.

My sis doesn't mind washing but has had days out planned so is not usre how she will dry them because she doesn't have a tumble dryer and wouldn't want to leave them on the line in case it rained while she was out.

Get har a packet of three t shirts and a couple of skirts or leggings and she'll be fine. If money's really short you could pick up something from a charity shop.

We can afford it. The issue is to get things sent to my sister I have to use a debit or credit card in our address. I can't use store credit and my bank is empty until next week, having been spent on other things dd1 and dd2 are taking away with them and on dd2's birthday.

DH would have to use his card and the children's clothes shopping is supposed to come from my money. He can't understand why she has so little when I do spend money on them, but lately that has been on shoes, pjs and school clothes that I did notice she needed. Not day to day clothes.

If that makes any sense?

It does make sense. If it is so important that you pay, get him to buy them and write him an IOU. She doesn't need loads but could probably do with a couple of t shirts and a few pairs of leggins/skirts as mirry suggested. And they can be cheap ones as he is buying, especially as they are just for fun trips and playing at your sister's.

Why the strange finances. Surely you contribute to the family? I never understand that way of doing things.

Yes it makes sense.

Your dd needs new clothes this week. You have no money to pay for this because the money you did have went on shoes pjs and school clothes which really translates as you don't have enough money for your growing childrens clothes and you need to get some more from somewhere.

So you need to explain to dh that the money that is allocated for clothes simply doesn't cover it!!!!! He needs to stump up this one time and then you need to re-do your budget.

I'm constantly amazed at how few clothes my 8 year old has... he only really wear school uniform, cub uniform and a couple of items at the weekend.

Don't kick yourself!

Buy some more clothes though. Don't go crazy, by the summer you'll have to do the whole thing again!

His child has no clothes.His child needs new clothes.

Tell him to cop on and pay up,you'll repay him next week (if that's the way you do things)

No I have enough for clothes but have been a bit frivolous the week and used part of the clothing allowance to pay for birthday treats and such like. Plus dd1 has had an inordinate amount of money spent on shoes for her lately.

Had I realised at the begining of the week before I started paying for trips to the teddy factory and repairing nintendos then I would have had enough to cover some more clothes.

DH has now agreed to order the clothes providing I pay the phone bill, which is fair enough as the phone bill is only £38. The clothes were £60, so by over spending the clothes budget this week I've ended up saving £20

His money is for household bills. Mine is for clothes, trips out and treats. That way we know the bills are getting paid and don't generally touch his bank account at all, bar the weekly shop, which I top up with my money. It normally works out quite well, but as I said I went a bit mad with my money this week.

That arrangement would really bug me,but each to their own,I suppose.

Oh I love that arrangment. My money is the fun money. I is in charge of fun

Meaning I can prioristise my fun should I so choose to

I understand having a "fun" account and a "bills" account - but what I don't understand is this "my money", "his money" thing.

I can also totally understand the sudden realisation that DD has NO clothes that fit. During school time DD doesn't tend to change out of her school uniform, and wears brownie uniform on a Friday, Dance stuff worn on a Saturday (which she will sometimes change out of if she can be bothered) so really only wears "ordinary" clothes on a Sunday (which is sometimes the same outfit she wore on Saturday if clean). So when she suddenly needs a week worth of ordinary clothes and we go to her wardrobe we find it full of clothes that are too small.

The arrangement doesn't work that well if your kid has hardly any clothes and you need an IOU from your DH

I don't think this needs to become a family finances argument thread tbh. The arrangement the OP has works for her and that's all we need to know.

I would send at least four changes of clothes. My general rule of thumb is if washing can be done while away, you only need enough clothes to cover at least half the week.

A tenner would buy some jeans and a couple of tops in Sainsburys or Primark, which is all she will need for the week added to what she already has. She is at your sisters, so your sis can bung some washing in midweek.

Iggly, if I'd realised she needed more clothes she would have had them. If I'd realised she needed more clothes and could have bought them in the shops with cash (I get paid in hand, tonight) then it would not have been an issue.

The problem is I have only realised on the day she was due to go away for a week. Which happened to be the same week as dd2's birthday, during which I massively over spent as I felt rich owing to cutting down on fags and having extra shifts. The trip to the teddy factory was not planned for, nor were the repairs to the nintendo DS, which took all my extra cash for the week.

Dd1 had already spent her money on an external dvd player for her netbook and some dvds to take away to my sisters with her before I realised she needed clothes.

I have spent a small fotune on each child this week that I could and would have used for clothes if I'd known she needed them. Now it will be Wednesady before I can get to the bank to pay in more cash.

Clothes for kids are cheap as chips so I don't see why this is an issue?
I used to buy armfuls for my dd at car boot sales but supermarkets are nearly as cheap.

OP, we had phases of this with DD between about 8 and 11 when she just grew and grew grew. I completely understand where you are coming from - remembers being sooo pleased at the end of Y5 when I bought three age 12 summer dresses from M&S for £2 each thinking they would do nicely next year. Next year came, DD had sprouted B cups and they didn't even do up. Ended up paying £16 per dress, age 13, from John Lewis because whatever the M&S size they weren't cut for dd's shoulders/boobs .

She's 14 now though and has barely grown since. Still wearing a little Jasper Conran jacket I bought with growing room in Y5 and pointing her dainty little size 4's at me.