To think we CANNOT send dd1 to my sisters for a week with only three days worth of clothes?

[D0oinMeCleanin]

That is all she has that fits her.

I don't know why I thought she was wearing the same things again and again. I guess I didn't really think about it. She is vair fussy and does tend to stick to a few key outfits.

DH seems to think that me wanting to buy her more clothes and sending them to my sister's house is just me wanting to spend money for the sake of it.

It is the summer holidays soon and she has a grand total of 1 jumper dress, 1 pair of jeans that matches three different tops and 1 leggings and tunic set. And that is it. That is all that is left that still fits the stoopidly fast growing child.

She was in age 7 last summer. She is in age 10 now.

Sounds like your DP is still being an arse to me.

Just buy her some new clothes. It really is that simple isn't it?

Wrt to growing out of clothes I know what you mean. My ds1 is in yr 1 (primary) and last year when it got to the summer hols I suddenly realised he didn't have enough clothes. He wears his school uniform all week, and plays football on a Saturday so tends to wear his football kit all day so usually we only need 1 outfit a week. Come the 6 weeks holiday and I was a bit lost. Shopping trip was definitely needed!

If she needs clothes then she needs clothes, dp has the money so should get her some.

When my DCs were small I used the "one on, one off and one in the wash" guideline for outerwear, two pairs of socks and jocks per day and two pjs, one pair trainers, one pair "dress" or school shoes, one pair casual shoes, wellies and a pair of boots for winter.

Any more than that and they'll grow out before they get any wear put if them.

When Dd goes on Brownie pack holiday she comes home with one dirty outfit, the clothes she's wearing; and otherwise a suitcase full of clean unworn items. So I would chance sending her somewhere for 7 days with only 3 outfits, if I had to, at short notice.

I would have thought summer hols & visit to sis are almost 7 weeks away SO it would be easy to find a few things at jumble sales & in charity shops in meantime, well within most budgets. Don't understand the panic.

for that matter, give us your address, OP, I bet half of us have spare clothes we could send for cost of postage.Most of DD's were cast offs so cheap as chips.

Sorry, I know the arrangement works for you. But DH and I were discussing this and the fact that you can't just buy the clothes because you've run out of money when your DH has it just is they're both of your children.

Seriously D0oinmecleaning, you 'd'h is a proper piece of work, WHY? WHY are you still with him?
I really feel sorry for your children, and you, but your children mostly as they have no choice but to put up with this.

Excuse me, but dh and I have separate bank accounts - never had a joint account. DH pays all the household bills. I pay for the treats and for clothes for me and the dc, some housey stuff and my personal stuff like hair and make-up. Yesterday DH subbed DS £40 for a pair of casual summer shoes and told me and I paid him back. We have been happily married for 21 years and I have never had a problem with the way we organise our money.

OTT - are you being serious?

Unless there's history on another thread that we don't know about, are you actually questioning why the OP is still with her husband because they have seperate bank accounts and he dared to question why their DD needed new clothes?

seperate separate

I expect you sister has a washing machine, yes?
And your DD can use it or learn to?
Seriously, this is a non-crisis.

Dd is going away today for half term, or rather has gone away for half term.

Her things will get to my sisters on wednesday. She has enough things to last until wednesday.

I have ordered a large drawer for her to sleep in to prevent her growing anymore

It's really kind to offer to send us things, but honestly, we do not need it. We are fine for money and they both get everything they need and then some, it's just this caught me by surprise at the most awkward time possible, wrt having available cash to spend. Had she been going in the morning I could have just nipped to Tesco in the morning with my wages, which I got five minutes after she left, of course [typical]

DH and I also have seperate accounts, that isn't what i was refering to at all, thank you.
Every post i have read about D0oinmecleaning and her 'd'h has been negative, nothing postitive ever, and quite often it affects the children especially the eldest significantly.
I do not and have never had the impression that D0oinmecleaning is happy with her life because of her husband and the way he acts and treats the family.
There are lots of posts from the op regards to her husbands attitude towards her role and the children, some of the posts are quite upsetting and do not paint a nice picture.
I wish she would see that she and her children deserve better, it is depressing sometimes to see the same problem pop up with such a regular poster.

If you have to use your debit/credit card order online & get them delivered to your sisters house. Usually you can have a different delivery address from your billing address. George and matalan Usually deliver fairly quickly. xx