To be upset at this woman's comment ?

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I'm 37 weeks pregnant. Had to get pile cream from the chemist. Sorry if tmi. Lady behind counter told me you really need to get the piles sorted before giving birth. I said I'm ok as Im having a section.I'm on crutches at moment due to Spd.
She said oh you're too posh to push. I walked away nearly in tears.

Silly woman. But I'm sure she just made the remark flippantly without thinking.

Let it go, it won't be bothering her so don't let it bother you. Good luck with the birth

YANBU how bloody rude of her!

How rude. I would write and complain.

She is very rude, has no idea of your history, is an ignorant cow and can safely be ignored.
YANBU to be a bit upset, but bear in mind you're in pain and hormonal - if you weren't, you'd probably have ignored her anyway.

Ignore her!

(lots of ignores in this post, deliberately )

Go back when you feel up to it, or phone or write, and make a complaint to her manager. People who work in chemists and pharmacies should never pass personal comments on their customers - well anyone in a shop shouldn't, but moreso in a chemist. She has no idea what medical problems you might have and it's none of her business! Take no notice of the silly cow love, she's obviously engaging her gob before her brain I wish I was near and could go and harangue her viciously tell her off for you, I'm just in the mood to shout at someone!

Ffs sakes she was probably having a (bad) joke. Ignore her and move on.

How rude!

Would people really go to the trouble to write a letter of complaint? Maybe I 'm just a bit too Zen, but tbh life's too short to fret about daft stuff like that, imo.

Ignore her - she doesn't get to have an opinion on your birth.
FWIW, I had SPD and while I coped fine with labour, I did not cope well with the birth. It was pain beyond anything I could have imagined, because I could not cope with the position they needed me in (dd got into difficulties so we were on a bit of a time limit as well). It ended up with me being so out of it on pain killers (which didn't help) that I couldn't hold dd in the minutes after she was born as they were frightened I'd drop her. I have a hazy memory of her being on my chest, being held there by someone, but I don't remember much else. I can't get those first minutes back and I resent it. Go for your CS as at least you will remember the first few seconds of your DC's life.

It was rude, but this was probably just an ill-timed joke. YANBU to be upset, but I wouldn't complain as others have suggested. I think that would be too extreme.

I'd complain! she needs to learn some tact, stupid cow!

She was probably just having bad joke. A stupid comment but do you really think she meant to cause offence? I'd just leave it tbh, I wouldn't bother to go to the effort of complaining about her.

Yanbu, that's such a rude comment! And a stupid one too, she doesn't know why you're having a c-section so she shouldn't assume anything! Honestly you do not have to justify yourself, so try and forget about her!!

She works in a chemists. She should be used to not being rude and insensitive.

Do what you feel you need to - if you want to write a letter, do.

YANBU - I'd be upset too.

She works in a pharmacy - professional conduct is part of the job, she failed. I'd complain.

Cheeky Mare!

You could have said "Actually I am using the pile cream round my eyes as a beauty aid. Perhaps you ought to try some - you've got loads of wrinkles." and hobbled stalked out.

I have worked in pharmacies for many years and have always trained staff to remember that customers may be feeling more ill, grumpy or sensitive than those in other shops so they may be held to higher standards.

Having said that, I would only complain if you think it will make you feel better, otherwise just brush it aside and move on.

She works in a shop- you are giving her way too much power over you.

I wouldn't complain - I would have thoroughly put her in her place at the time & got her to apologise.

YANBU to be upset, but many people wouldn't have been. I have even had friends who have had sections jokingly refer to themselves as 'too posh to push'. Sometimes it is so they can laugh it away and not discuss the ins and outs of their birth.

Should I complain about them officially too? And if so, to whom?

Let it go. But please, if you want to complain, complain to her. Don't go to a manager or something about this until you have given her the opportunity to learn from her mistake. Maybe she had a section and refers to herself as TPTP and was trying (badly) to share a joke.

good grief. complain. she has no right to make such comments. your health is your business, not hers.

wishing you well for your section and afterwards. your piles and op will fade into the past, but she'll always be a mannerless oaf with a big gob.

YANBU.

I've had 2 sections and people thinking or saying I am too posh to push is offensive and unacceptable.

I have no sense of humour about it at all. The first one was EMCS (after a 24 hour labour) and the 2nd ELCS because of the 1st one. Without them I'd have been fucked and my DS would not have lived.

"Too posh to push" should be phased out. It's not even funny.

Some people think mothers just ask for one and get one because they don't fancy giving birth and the more we tolerate this shit, the longer people will think it.

I would write and complain personally. It's easy for other people to say shrug it off, but I get really offended and I think making a smart arse joke about someone's birth choices which are often out of their hands is just bloody rude.

She was joking.