To be upset at this woman's comment ?

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I'm 37 weeks pregnant. Had to get pile cream from the chemist. Sorry if tmi. Lady behind counter told me you really need to get the piles sorted before giving birth. I said I'm ok as Im having a section.I'm on crutches at moment due to Spd.
She said oh you're too posh to push. I walked away nearly in tears.

yanbu simply as her line of work she should be more professional. as for anyone else let it go ... its only working you up and the other person probably hasnt given it a second thought. otherwise say something there and then. you have enough on your plate. and my sympathies with spd i had it and had an elective because of it so i feel your pain. mind yourself.

Bags of sympathy here - hope the section goes extremely well.

Woman was very rude and thoughtless which is v. bad for someone working in a pharmacy where you are dealing with vulnerable people. If you want to complain, you'd be doing future customers a big favour - and might help you to feel better.

mirry2- I wouldn't care if she was joking. It's not a joke if it upsets someone.

Omg she works in a chemists and makes flippant comments about people's medical complaints. Yanbu. Ignore her.

should have smiled and said "do you mind me asking what pile cream you use as there is obviously something up your arse" and as you turn away give her a whack with the crutch.

Thanks everyone. I know I'm hormonal at the moment but I work in healthcare myself and would never be so insensitive. She didn't say it in a jokey way.
I don't think I will complain. Ive calmed down since I've come home. Roll on 14th June when I get to meet my new baby girl.

The plus side of an ELCS is knowing the date baby will arrive! Keep thinking towards this date. Good luck!

YANBU.

People working in a chemists should know better than to make thoughtless comments like that.

BalloonSlayer!

I had one emergency CS after 24 hours of being induced. It was a proper emergency by the time we came to it but luckily everything was in place when he became distressed. DS1 was born with his cord twice round his neck and might not have made it.

I had another emergency CS after 24 hours of not-quite-labour VERY painful contractions after my waters broke. It was not a life-threatening situation but it made good sense at the time.

I had one elective CS. THe circumstances of my pregnancy were quite harrowing and included being offered a termination at 30 weeks. I told anyone who queried it that I was too posh to push. I felt it saved a lot of hassle.

Please don't let what people say upset you. And have a great section.

Scuzy. I wish I thought of saying that. Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences. Had a previous section for dd. so know what's ahead of me. I'm grateful I don't need to have an emergency one.

I'd complain, people like that should not be working in a position where they are exposed to vulnerable people and their private medical issues. If she's that ignorant and insensitive toward a heavily pregnant woman I would wonder what she says to severely depressed people or others who could be tipped over the edge by a stupid, offensive, personal comment regarding their health.

yanbu - these things are hardly taken lightly - not too posh for major abdominal surgery- it is mot the easy choice by a long chalk!

It was a very badly thought out comment, and would have pissed me off no end.

Good luck for the 14th and by the by on a completely different note - if the dreaded piles don't shift (had them terribly with dd3 last year), don't hesitate/be scundered get GP to prescribe a decent ointment. I used two different over the counter creams and they did feck all. Quick telephone call to GP, slight hormonal weep and got ointment.

YouOldSlag (am I wrong to love typing that?) is spot on. Too posh to push is just so wrong. C-section is not an easy option as it takes longer to recover from than natural delivery. I have experienced 3 different forms of birth. Natural, emergency section with epidural and emergency section with general anaesthetic. The first was by far the easiest and no matter how posh I become (not likely to happen, tbh) I would never choose to have another child ceaserian.

Wot Bubbledunk said. Her employers need to know and they need evidence to raise the issue with her. Who knows what little comments she has made to people who may be distressed.

You don't need to go overboard - just relate exactly what she said.

Ironic thing is I actually had a GP prescription but they didn't have that one in stock. And they wouldn't give me an alternative one so I had to buy an over the counter one.

OP - I feel for you. I had SPD and piles and had to have a section so I can identify with your discomfort! If it's any consolation, the SPD disappeared on its own after the birth.

As for "too posh to push" I think it should be challenged every time someone says it in order to get it phased out.

It's simply not true that you can choose to have one just because you don't fancy a vaginal birth. People need to realise there needs to be a bloody good medical reason and mothers who have such a reason shouldn't be dissed as too posh to push when it's not their fault.

Rude and thoughtless but don't give her anymore headspace than she deserves.

FWIW I had SPD and was on crutches. DD2 was also back to back and I managed vaginal birth with the aid of an epidural. Definitely glad i did as recovery time is so much quicker.

I've found many uses for this over the years:

1. Steely gimlet gaze
2. 'I'm sorry, what did you just say to me?'
3. 'I see'

Never fails to cut 'em down to size

She shouldn't have even mentioned the piles, tbh. Clearly if you are buying cream then you are attempting to get rid before the birth, and she should be sensitive enough to realise someone might not want a discussion about their arse problems. The too posh to push comment underlines the fact she has no tact.

You should complain. I agree with YouOldSlag about challenging it when its said. Its deeply unprofessional and rude. The pharmacy need pulling up on it.

How many other people are going to be upset by this bitch? She could be passing comment on any other number of things, and could affect whether they seek treatment or help in the future on medical issues for fear of being judged.

YANBU. When I bought a preg test the woman behind the counter in the chemist quizzed me in detail about whether I was hoping for it to be positive or negative, and wouldn't shut up! I came away feeling very intruded on, and was quite cross. I was pleased for it to be a BFP as it happened but SHE didn't know that. Another pharmacy assistant in a (different) chemist, which was incredibly busy with loads of people hanging about waiting for prescriptions, was calling over to the pharmacist in a foghorn voice 'THIS LADY WANTS TO KNOW IF SHE CAN USE THE THRUSH CREAM AND PESSARY AS SHE'S PREGNANT'. I was . This sort of thing annoys me, pharmacy assistants should know to be discreet about these things. If they don't then it should be part of their mandatory training.

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