to wonder if one of your DC's was at a sleepover.

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..would you stay able to drive, in case there was a problem?

DS1 had a friend, aged 9, to stay last night, but at about 9.30 he was sick a couple of times, obviously wasnt well and wanted to go home. I phoned his mum and dad (who live about 2 miles away) but they were both pissed and so couldnt drive and come and collect him.

They did suggest a cab, but as he was being sick and quite upset I didnt a) want to send him off into the night on his own and b) wasnt sure a cab would take him anyway.

DH was out so, I had to wake DS2 and pile all 3 boys into the car and drive him home.

TBH last night I was a bit pissed off with the mum and dad (mainly due to the hassle factor) but wonder now if IWBU??

(for what its worth, either DH or I stay sober if DS1 is out)

i would take full advantage of a DC-free evening, but would have got into a taxi myself to collect a sick child

Couldn't they have come in a taxi to get him?

The parents should have come in the taxi! Who leaves a 9 year old child alone in a cab! Terrible! Thank goodness you have sense.

yes, I would - we are not big drinkers anyway but there's always the possibility your child might need fetching because of something unforeseen.

I would have gone to pick him up in a taxi.

gosh yes taxi

poor kid, and your family having to cope with an unwell child

I would have got into a taxi to collect sick child as well.

Not really.

If you had a babysitter and were going out, would you both stay sober "just in case"?

do you know it didnt even occur to me that they could come by cab and get him as DS1 would say.

I would probably have a drink personally, i would most likely of also told you i was sending a taxi for you to put him in, loads of parents cant drive so would of had to do the same drink or not

When my children were that age , I would not drink and would have collected them straight away .
DS is now 17 and sleeping over also known as house party and I think a glass of wine ( for me , he's on Strongbow !) is in order

i would have gone in a taxi myself to get the child, i wouldnt expect a poorly child to go in a taxi on their own, i dont imagine a taxi driver would be very impressed at a vomiting child in their car tbh, but at least if i was with the child i could be prepared, ie carrier bags/bowl to catch vomit and wet wipes etc!

Poorly child going home to pissed parents.

YANBU.

They should have got into a taxi and come to pick him up. Sounds like the parents had a common sense bypass. At least you had your head screwed on and sorted it out.

I know the op said they were pissed, but i'd say there was a fair few drinks difference between being over the limit to drive and too pissed to care for a sick child.

i'd say ANY drink was too pissed to drive tbh

Pretty crap that they sat on their arses whilst you had to get everything together to drive their child home.

One of them should have got a cab.

YABU, we would have had a few drinks and therefore been unable to drive over and collect him BUT we would definitely have got in a cab and come to collect him unless we were too pissed to think of that ourselves in which case it would have been up to you to think of that (using your 20:20 hindsight!).

They certainly weren't totally hammered or incapable when I got there (and would, of course, would never suggest they should have driven if they'd had a few).

I think its a bit different to staying sober when you have a babysitter cos in that case you only have to get yourselves home, not take poorly child out to get him home iyswim.

If I was planning on drinking while DS was at a sleepover, I would have a plan in mind as to how I would get him if necessary. It would probably involve GPs picking him up if DP had been drinking also.

I don't drive and dh would be careful about what he drank until about 9.30, assuming that any problems would have happened by then. I would get in a taxi if dd was ill at a friend's to collect her.

I think they were having a very well deserved night off.

Of course they could come and collect him in a cab - lucky they were in - last time dd was at a sleepover dh and I were in London til 3am.

I would have got a cab to take me to collect a poorly DC.

personally if i had a child here and they were sick and the parents said sorry cant drive had a drink then i would take the child home myself, pain getting another child out of bed but these things happen when you look after other peoples children