I'm feeling very sensitive so please don't be too hard on me.
I've been with my dp for almost 4 years and it's been a bumpy ride, he takes us out, he generally treats me pretty good (day to day), helps out with dd and is really good with her, he generally just accepts me for who I am which is something I value in a person.
But he has also treated me like complete shit on occassion, examples, about 2 years into our relationship I feel pregnant and practically forced me to have an abortion by not speaking to me for weeks and making it very clear he did not want the responsibility. He refuses to commit to anything more than a weekend relationship this is partly down ot the distance we live apart. We were once supposed to go away for two weeks with his family and he backed out at the last minute even though I'd booked time off work etc. On occassions where we have split up for a few weeks I've found out on his computer that he's joined dating sites and been chatting to women, been flirting with women on Facebook that he's met on chat rooms. He breaks up with me every few months over silly things.
Anyway, the latest spat, he has this mate that I really don't think a lot of, this mate has a child he seems to never bother with a just uses the mother to have sex with when he wants it, on the one occassion I was 'allowed' to meet this friend he blanked us and went off on the pull, he's text my dp things like when they have been supposed to be going for a curry that they are gong for some 'pilau and pussy', although do swears his mates just immature, I hate the ways his mate speaks about women, it's all 'tits and ass' this. So if dp says he wants to meet this friend I cringe, he doesn't go out very often probably only twice a month but as he went out last week and we were supposed to be having a long weekend as a family I was pissed off when he told me he was meeting the twat, so it resulted in a big row and him telling me I'm controlling and wants to break up.
Yes I know you're supposed to trust your partner but for us the trust has well and truly had it and is taking time to build back up but he can't see this or obviously doesn't care.
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fedup11 · 01/06/2012 17:51
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