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AIBU?

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To think I should have control over what my son eats at nursery?

325 replies

booomy · 01/06/2012 11:23

My 9 month old started nursery this week. There has been a few issues but the food has shocked me! It's a sure start centre with all 1's from ofsted.

The first day I went in, the babies (15 of them) were being spoon fed smushed up chips and pizza! I was really shocked, and the next day had a bit of a to-do with the senior leader about DS not having chips. Pizza is fine as long as its home-made bread with tomato sauce cheese and veggies. No harm in that. But in my mind it's weird to be feeding babies as young as 5months chips, even if they are oven baked!

I also said I didn't want DS having dessert. He soon learnt that after dinner was dessert and started refusing his food, so we cut it out. They made a big fuss about it (example is fruit crumble & custard/ice cream). But after speaking to the head teacher, they just give him bits of fruit from snack time (melon, strawberries etc) that he's fine with!

Fast forward to today (jubilee party). The babies were baking (if you can call it that) when we arrived. I plonked DS in the music area, which he loves and he sat there occupying himself. One of the staff asked if he could make a biscuit with icing and I said no! They were really annoyed at me :( they said before lunch they were having milk and biscuits, and DS would feel left out. I said I really didn't want him to have one. If he felt left out then he could have a small bit of a plain one. DS has never had anything with refined sugar before. if he ate a biscuit with icing then i think he'd either have a headache or be bouncing off the walls!

Would you let a 9 month old have a icing biscuit? An odd treat is okay, but not for babies. If he was 3 or 4 and wanted one its different. Do you think i'm within my rights to ask for him to have fruit instead of a dessert?

OP posts:
OhNoMyFanjo · 01/06/2012 16:05

Ok tge sugar rush thing, not scientific but Jo frost had an experiment where they gave half a bunch of kids high sugar party foods and the other half good stuff and then sent them off to play. Tge parents were watching them play and asked to judge if their child had the sugar menu based on their behaviour. Almost all the parents said yes my child has had sugar, the ones that said they hadn't some of them had.

I've heard tge mushed up pizza and chips thing before. Didn't you look at tge menu before you put him there?

To me the fact they will not take seriously an intolerance just shows their attitude.

bumbleymummy · 01/06/2012 16:08

Would a 9 month old even know if they were eating a biscuit they decorated? Surely they could just 'make it' (as much as a 9 mo can make something!) along with the others and then just have their own snack later.

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 01/06/2012 17:01

Biscuit he can have this one!

Floggingmolly · 01/06/2012 17:23

ohnomyfanjo. He doesn't have an intolerance for them to the seriously!

The op's assertion that the biscuit will make his head explode is not made with any scientific principle whatsoever to back it up. Grin

Floggingmolly · 01/06/2012 17:24

take

OhNoMyFanjo · 01/06/2012 17:33

She said he was intolerant to egg

KitCat26 · 01/06/2012 17:36

I would be happy with pizza if it was homemade, and oven chips would be ok. I wouldn't mash them up for babies though let them finger feed. Fruit or yoghurt for pudding though.

DD1 didn't get biscuits til she was over a year.
DD2 ate bourbons and fairy cakes from 6mths. She learnt to crawl bang on 6mths and was very swift at mugging her big sister of treats. I was much more relaxed with what DD2 ate though.

It is entirely up to you to decide what is appropriate for your son so just because that YANBU.

exoticfruits · 01/06/2012 17:37

I am struggling to know why anyone would put chips with pizza.Confused

exoticfruits · 01/06/2012 17:38

In fact I mentioned on another thread that people were too fat because they had chips with pizza.

exoticfruits · 01/06/2012 17:39

It is like eating chips with curry or chips with lasagne-they don't go.

Floggingmolly · 01/06/2012 17:39

Yes, she did. Sorry, I just couldn't get past the fuss about the biscuit.

theodorakis · 01/06/2012 17:39

Flisspaps, I nominate you to run the world! The voice of reason.

OhNoMyFanjo · 01/06/2012 17:43

Floggingmolly Grin

Btw I live chips with pizza, curry and lasagne (runs away quickly, yes I can still run)

MmeLindor. · 01/06/2012 17:47

YABU about the biscuit.

YANBU about the pizza and chips - this would not bother me for an occasional meal for a toddler, but I find it really odd for 5 - 9mth old babies.

Saying that, you do have to watch that you are not sorting food into "good" and "bad" food - it is really not helpful for children.

A healthy balanced diet can very well include a biscuit or a bit of cake.

knowitallstrikesagain · 01/06/2012 17:47

I have actually never understood the need for chips with lasagne, or garlic bread with spaghetti bolognaise, but I appreciate both Grin

MmeLindor. · 01/06/2012 17:49

Pizza with chips is strange, and lasagne with chips is even worse.

Why do you need chips with lasagne. You are eating pasta and meat, it is a complete meal already.

OhNoMyFanjo · 01/06/2012 17:51

Because they are nice and I dip them in mayo

knowitallstrikesagain · 01/06/2012 17:51

Do you lot never eat in cheap pubs? Lasagne with chips is on nearly every menu! Again, no need but there was no need for me to just eat that bar of chocolate seeing as I wasn't hungry and it is not a meal, I just fancied it.

difficultpickle · 01/06/2012 17:52

Have you actually looked for alternative nursery/CM or just gone on this one's reputation? Sounds to me as if you would be better off with a CM that can cater to your need to ensure your baby only eats what you want it to eat. The alternative is to stay at home. At that age ds's CM expected me to provide food so I had complete control over what he ate (Hipp organic jars from memory!).

eurochick · 01/06/2012 17:52

I suspect there are many Italians who would have apopleptic fits at the idea of pizza with chips or bread with pasta.

OhNoMyFanjo · 01/06/2012 17:54

I suspect there are many Italians who would have apopleptic fits at the idea of pizza with chips or bread with pasta.

Our lasagne, pizza, pasta etc beats no relarion to what they understand those dishes to be.

OhNoMyFanjo · 01/06/2012 17:54

*bears

MmeLindor. · 01/06/2012 17:56

That is true, Ohnomyfanjo.

German DH was totally bemused when he first had lasagne in UK and they brought him chips.

notcutoutforthis · 01/06/2012 18:06

i get sugar highs and im 30.

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 01/06/2012 18:11

Chips with lasagne is lush. They don't know what they are missing in Italy. The lovely gooey lasagne mess dipped on freshly cooked chippies, yum yum.