To not ask if somebody wanted some food

[billybeau]

I live with just my mum and we have just had a massive argument over nothing, well, nothing in my eyes.

I'm mid 20's, she's early 50's

We have both been up since 7, we've made our own breakfasts as we do everyday (well, I had only a cup of tea). Then we had showers and as she's drying her hair, I decided to make myself some toast as I'm hungry and had only had toast. Mum had cereal. She comes out of her bedroom and says "Why do you never ask if I want anything"

I said, "you're 50+, if you want something, I'm sure you can decide for yourself and make yourself something"

This caused an argument.

I generally don't know if I'm BU about not asking if she wanted anything to eat when I was making toast, which in effect, was my breakfast when she's already had breakfast.

AIBU or is she?

Poopoo,

That is a v extreme example.

I see far more threads that start more like this:

"My DM takes my 4 DCs (aged 4-11) 3 afternoons a week and sometimes until I come home from work at 7PM. I always try to feed them organically and avoid anything with fast release sugars or gluten in it. I would have thought that these instructions would be easy to follow but just because DC2 vomited on the floor and DC1 upended a flower pot, my DM claimed she had no time to make an organic lunch from scratch and ended up feeding them pasta with an M&S sauce. I am sure that DS1 has been hyper because of it and has not gone to bed at his usual time this evening. AIBU in thinking that DM could make more effort? These are her GCs after all!"

PooPooInMyToes

No, you pay someone who will do what you want them to. Why would you 'suck it up'? If you want help for free and you can find someone who will do exactly what you want, great. If not, pay!

Yabu to live on toast, ice cream and crisps

I would think its not the lack of toast offering that upset your mum, its your comment 'I said, "you're 50+, if you want something, I'm sure you can decide for yourself and make yourself something" that upset. You were not unreasonable to not offer toast. You were very rude and unreasonable to say that.