To think that if our marriage has any chance?

[Lizcat]

H must not continue to be friends with the OW. Well that's it really? He is still meeting her, texting etc. He was shocked that I made this a condition of any attempt to work through our issues at our first relate meeting.

Oh Lizcat, I'm so sorry. I'm currently in the same boat so know how you feel. This week I had a breakthrough and suddenly let go of my H. Knowing calmly, rationally and without anger that I no longer wanted him as my husband was like cloud lifting. You will reach this place too, but the hurt will take time to go. There are many lovely men out there who would love to have you in their life, and would treat you with the respect you deserve. Your DH like mine has moved on emotionally and so should you.

I'm sorry.

He is clearly thinking that he can have his cake and eat it too. He can't honestly believe that it's OK to carry on being friends with OW and hang o to his marriage. He clearly sees women as toys. Or it's just bravado and he's hoping to bluff it out and that you'll eventually go along with it.

cheeky fecker. Tell him that you have also been shagging someone and would it be ok if he came round for tea over the weekend

His loyalty should be to you not his ow.