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To think Mumsnet made me do it?

59 replies

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 31/05/2012 16:19

I went to Sainsburys today (actually I think MN probably made me do that as well).

I was waiting at customer services to take make their stupid faux crocs (they only lasted one wear - just incase Mr Sainsbury is googling).

There was a mum with a toddler at the front of the queue with lots of shopping. I dont know why because you dont usually see a ton of stuff going through the tills at customer services. But anyway she had a fractious toddler with her who had a packet of sweets in his hand.

A couple of times she tried to take it off him but he set up a fussin' and a wailing so she just gave up and concentrated on getting all the shopping packed and sorted.

There was a woman in front of me who just started yapping on really loudly along the lines of 'OFGS! look at that! Just ignore him, take the sweets off him. I mean WHO is in charge!' She wasnt talking to the mum (oh no) she was talking to the air and then trying to get the others in the queue involved. A few others were making vaguely agreeing noises.

Again with the 'thats the problem isnt it? People just dont tell their kids now! FGS stop giving in to him!'
She turned round to me (she DID turn round, I am not just saying that) and (this is the mumsnet bit) I said
'I think it is really rude to comment on someone's parenting when they are standing in front of you like that' in a firm voice (eep).
She said 'I dont think she can here me'
So I said 'I dont care, its rude, dont do it'

I didnt shout or swear or nuffin!

I firmly believe I was channeling the might of MN in that moment in an East London supermarket.

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habbibu · 31/05/2012 16:21

Hurray!

manicbmc · 31/05/2012 16:21

Well done you! Grin

Herrena · 31/05/2012 16:22

Wave that MN banner proudly MrsDV!

Debeezandbirds · 31/05/2012 16:23

If the mother did hear her I hope she heard you too. Might have made her day that little bit more bearable.

HandMadeTail · 31/05/2012 16:24

Hurrah for the sisterhood!

ThatllDoPig · 31/05/2012 16:26

well done you!
did the mum of the toddler hear any of it?

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 31/05/2012 16:26

I really wouldnt have done that a few years back. I would have just fumed silently.
This was a well spoken woman, a bit older than me. I hate that fecking passive agressive talking about someone, loudly, but not having the guts to tell them.

The poor woman with the toddler was probably wanting to get him home for lunch and was aware that she was holding up the queue with her complicated return.

She did shut up though. I waited a bit and then went to look at the clothes (25% off btw) because the it was a waste of time just standing there. BUT I wasnt even embarrassed and would have happily stood behind the moaner.

What is happening to me? Shock

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 31/05/2012 16:27

I hope she did.
Mind you if she heard me she would have definately heard the moaner. She was really loud.

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Psammead · 31/05/2012 16:31

Woohoo!

I told an exhausted looking new mum in the supermarket the other day that her red-faced, snot covered, bawling baby was gorgeous and that things will get easier and that if she needs to feed him the people on the meat counter will let you go into a little room with a chair, if you ask nicely.

I felt positively saintly.

Grin
PandaWatch · 31/05/2012 16:35

Good for you! What an awful woman. And if she didn't think the poor woman with the toddler could hear what exactly was she trying to do by having a good old bitch about her?!

PandaWatch · 31/05/2012 16:35
Grin
onetiredmummy · 31/05/2012 16:36

Disagreeable bat!

Well said! Grin

Psammead · 31/05/2012 16:37

I'd salute MrsDV bunting. Mine would be a lot of little hands flicking the V sign, so best not!

tara0202 · 31/05/2012 16:37

Well done, I.would love to have done that!

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 31/05/2012 16:37

I agree with her, but I agree with you more

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 31/05/2012 16:39

(I mean I might have been thinking, take the bloody sweets away and stop giving mixed messages, but I wouldn't say it)

LeoniPoni · 31/05/2012 16:39

Solidarity! I love it. And I hope that passremarkable woman thinks twice before spouting nonsense.

HipHopOpotomus · 31/05/2012 16:39

Fantastic & well done!

(Sainsburys customer service is incredibly slow in west London too BTW)

AlbertoFrog · 31/05/2012 16:40

Yay for the might of mumsnet.

p.s. DS is definitely in charge when we go grocery shopping. Anything to get the job done quietly.

And NO I don't want to do internet shopping thank you.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 31/05/2012 16:41

Fact is the moaner did have a bit of a point. Just wasnt the place to air it and it was obvious to me that the mother was just trying to get out of the shop.

Yeah panda I wondered about that. I suppose I could have asked the moaner wtf she was saying it all but I fear my assertive facade would have slipped, revealing the fishwife beneath
Grin

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PandaWatch · 31/05/2012 16:41

Psammead if that type of bunting was available (in the colours of the Union Flag of course) I'd hold a jubilee party just so I had an excuse to hang it all over our house! Grin

WorraLiberty · 31/05/2012 16:41

Well done, it is rude to comment like that.

But I totally agree with the woman by the way Grin

HappyJustToBe · 31/05/2012 16:42

Well done! Smile

FondleWithCare · 31/05/2012 16:43

Good for you!

I was working on a till once, the customer I was serving had a tantrumming toddler yelling about sweets. The mum said "no, you can't have any and I'm not going to talk about it any more" then ignored him as he screamed about it. The woman behind her was tutting and rolling her eyes then said "for God's sake just give him a slap" Shock then said to me "I'm right aren't I?" so I told her that she wasn't and that I thought the woman was doing the right thing by ignoring him. Why do people think it's ok to comment on other people's parenting?

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 31/05/2012 16:43

panda I am sure you used to be able to get badges/patches with a union jacked v sign hand.
In the late 70s/early 80s when we was all rebelious

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