Nearly in tears at the school gates , bullied by a teacher !

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I am taking my two children and my dh on a much needed holiday after half term. My dd is autistic and have received some money onwards a holiday. The deputy head granted me 5 days holiday. My son is in year 3 and I have now been told that he will miss 15 tests in that week and that they will not be able to take the tests this week or when he comes back. I have also been told that by missing all these tests he will go down a set. The head of year 3 started shouting at me in the playground and then told me she had to go because she had 20 children waiting for her in a after school club. I felt like crying, I play a big part in my children's education and I feel like shit because I am taking them on holiday. I pay for extra tuition for both my children and they are generally happy at school. WWYD next?

I wouldn't care if my children worked in a fast food chain, as long as they were happy and healthy and contributing by paying tax then I'd be happy. If everyone refused to do a job that wasn't brain surgery then who would stack the shelves at the supermarket?

Poosh how dare you judge the prospects of the OP's children?!

Ignore the empty vessel.

Worra makes me smile :-D

That was to Poosh

"They pay a decent wage and their hours are very parent and student friendly"

:o :o There was a recent news story in the London Evening Standard about how M. were hiring students as part time staff and then loading them with OT Basically they were full time staff but because officially they were part time, less NI is paid by M and they don't have the same benefits as official full timers.

Yes but the fact still remains that they pay a decent hourly wage, they're student and parent friendly, promotional prospects are good and you're taking this thread off topic for some bizarre reason.

Other than that, do you have any comment to make that involves anything whatsoever to do the the opening post?

"promotional prospects are good"

A couple of student friends would disagree.

By the way, its kind of silly that you take a throw away remark I made about M and then repeatedly hammer me with it and THEN go on about why I am diverting the thread by talking about M.

"where did you say you were educated? Oh that's right, you didn't"

What has my education got to do with my comments?

OP, tell the teacher to put her complaint in writing to the Deputy Head that authorised the holiday.
Bullying has to be a repeated, targeted attack, so she's merely being offensive and unprofessional ATM.
Write a calm letter of complaint to the head pointing out that one incident is unacceptable and telling him/her to sort it out because otherwise if the teacher continues to have a go in any way whatsoever,at you or any of your children, then it will be bullying and you'd like a copy of their complaints policy.

15 tests in a week in Y3 is ridiculous, is this a state school?

Seconds fallencaryatid. The teacher handled it badly. Have a nice holiday and try to forget some of your troubles and stresses of everyday life with an autistic child. Enjoy.

Op it's irrelevant whether you should or should not take your family on holiday during term time, you don't have to explain or justify why because the fact is it is authorised

Therefore the teacher has absolutely no right to say anything to you, let alone shout at you in the playground and I would definitely be speaking to the head.

It doesn't matter one teeny tiny bit what tests he is missing(I don't believe it's 15, my yr3 dc has just completed his yr 3 assessment tests 5 in total) no one has the right to speak to you in that manner.

As for the tiny minority (of one) who are giving you a hard time about term time holidays and your DCs future employment don't worry, there is always some perfect person here ready to turn the smallest non issue into a youre a terrible mother, your DCs will suffer and end up in a dead end job simply because they have nothing better to do.

I hope you have a lovely holiday

Have a lovely holiday. The teacher can't hold a bright child down a set just because he missed the tests-they need to be in the set that reflects their abilities. I would just pop in and have a friendly word with the Head. Don't let it spoil your holiday.

Sounds like you have chosen a brilliant week to take your DCs out of school. If your son is supposed to be taking 15 tests, there won't be much time left for actual education so he won't be missing anything. :)

Have a great holiday.

It is all to do with the school and how it looks not your child missing out.

Fifteen tests??? I work in a state primary school. Our dc do spelling, long writing, short writing, maths A, maths B, mental maths. That is 6. The superbright ones may be asked to sit a highter paper if they have done exceptionally well in the papers for their yeargroup. So 7 tests MAX. Teacher was talking bollocks.

Plus, we did our tests last week and this week myself and another TA are doing them with pupils who missed any of the tests due to absence for any reason.

So your ds should be able to sit the tests when he gets back nicely refreshed from the holiday.

And for poosh - you only get promoted within MCD if you are on their management programme. Which you need to apply for and have a certain level of qualifications. Then the promotion prospects are good (looks at 21 year old niece who is rapidly rising to management)
The standard burger flippers who are students and do it as a 'fill in' job have no prospects.

And the op's ds will have a bright and successful future because he does not have amother who thinks tests at the age of 8 are the deciding factor in becomeing a bin man or a bank manager!!