This is unprofessional isn't it?

[happy2bhomely]

I have a facebook friend who is a childminder. She often posts photos of her mindees on facebook. I have wondered about this, but thought maybe she has the parents permission.

Today she has posted a message similar to "Oh no, Moaning Martin Monday!" (I have changed the name!)
Lots of her friends have replied with, "Oh no! Not Moaning Martin!" or "You'll need your earplugs today. That kid doesn't stop crying!" And "Martin? Who calls a fucking kid Martin?"

I feel really sad thinking about 'Martin'. If this was my child I would be fuming. In fact, I am fuming, but am I over reacting?

Glitter, I don't think the child's name really is Martin.

I've just looked through her photos and there are loads of the kids. Lots have captions underneath saying "I love these kids", "My favourite little girl" etc.

The mother of one of the children has commented saying "true, you are second mummy!"

Maybe she just has her privacy settings wrong with the photos? Doesn't excuse the comments though. Surely if she's registered she has been advised about all of this.

Nah I know

wen I don't mean the child being upset about the comments, I mean upset in her care

Id take screen shots of everything and report anonymously to Ofsted

Even harping on about how much she loves some of them is a bit unprofessional too! My childminder is great, but she is NOT my child's second mummy, she is a woman I pay to look after her. Sounds like her boundaries are all wrong.

YANBU. I would report, report, report. Immediately.

YANBU.

Poor child. And poor childminder if I was that kids mum and I found out that she'd been posting on her fb about him.

She behaving very unprofessionally, you should report her!

I think she sounds a nasty bully.

This is a vulnerable small child in her care and she is humiliating him on a public forum.

If this was my child I would be devastated. It's such a betrayal of the trust 'Martin's' parents put in her.

And I can't believe she would be lovely and professional with 'Martin' in RL either. If she is so irritated by and contemptuous of him it is bound to leak out no matter how hard she might try to hide it. And 'Martin' may feel the effect of this, particularly in comparison to how she might treat her favourites

If I were you OP I would report her to Ofsted. She is a disgrace to childminders everywhere.

horrible behaviour, not acceptable

"wen I don't mean the child being upset about the comments, I mean upset in her care"

Oh, I see, Destier. Sorry. (It's hard to think straight when one household member's playing crap music, another's singing while cooking and a third is meowing because he thinks that will magically open a tin of tuna rather than Whiskas!).

wen... you sound very coherent considering!

yanbu, i would go mental if i found out my children teacher/keyworker slagging them off on facebook

OP - could you contact her privately and tell her that what she is doing is wrong, and why, and tell her that she must stop at once? Then report her if she doesn't change her ways?

I do realise that what she is doing is very wrong, but I think I would want to give someone a chance to see the error of their ways.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius she is a child minder and should know about safe guarding children in her care this includes internet saftey

That is a very good point, McHappy.

I'd just report her. Often parents don't post pictures of their own kids on fb as fb own rights to all photos posted. I don't think she needs a warning - it's completely unprofessional and mean spirited.
wen I think it's actually very hard to be pleasant and kind and fair to people one dislikes and perhaps the students you don't like may be better judges of how well you hide your feelings? Just maybe?

I'd be livid if I found out that DS's childminder had been posting things like that on FB. If I remember rightly in our contract I had to sign to say that I was happy for pictures go be taken of my child and it listed what these pictures would be used for. I'm quite often shown pictures of what DS has been up to but it's in the contract that these are for OFSTED and my information only. I'd personally not be happy with our CM posting pictures of my son on FB at all let alone commenting on them and joining in derogatory banter about my child. So unprofessional.

i knew a toddler who was always grizzling with his childminder. She moved away & my BF became his childminder. Never saw him grizzle once after that.

Glitterknickaz, he wasn't called Martin, OP changed the name.

I think she sounds awful and if you report her I wouldn't warn her first as then she will obviously know it was you and might well try to cause trouble or stir things with you. Maybe the cowards way to be anonymous and not saying anything to her face, but that's what I would do!

I would be so angry if I were "Martin"s mum and I think if she openly takes the piss out of this little boy on FB she probably isnt very nice to him when she has to look after him in person :(