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to call the police about children chalking swear words onto our wall

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designergirl · 23/05/2012 17:46

Need advice. We live in an end terrace and yesterday I noticed that someone had been chalking on our wall "Shit" and "f**ker" and "dasted" and "nob". They've also done it on the wall down the road.I asked our next door's daughter who plays out a lot (on her own - she's just turned 4 Biscuit She said it was her brother and his friend (aged about 6) . I spoke to his Mum who spoke to him. He said it was such and such a person, an older boy who lives where they used to live.So either him or his sister is lying. I am not sure if it was him or not, but it seems awfully convenient to pass the blame on to someone who lives elsewhere.
I have reported it as an incident and have an incident number, but I am not sure about asking the police to attend. The operator said they will and sometimes the presence of a policeman is enough for some kids. At least it has washed off, but I am annoyed because my kids are small (aged 1,3,5,8) and I don't want them knowing these sorts of words.Also, Mum doesn't seem too bothered about it, though I did hear Dad phoning someone asking who did it.
WWYD. Should I draw a line under it now as long as it doesn't happen again, or should I call out the police?
I envisage having to call out the police at some point for this family as since they moved in they have had a few loud parties that have gone on until 2am. I already spoke to their landlord.Should I save the police call until something more serious happens?

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robotcornysilk · 23/05/2012 17:49

I think I would leave it for now tbh - you have told the parents and hopefully it won't happen again. Police seems a bit OTT for now.

hurricanewyn · 23/05/2012 17:50

I would save a police visit for something bigger, tbh. Just an incident log means there's a record if needs be, but calling the police out for chalking rude words is perhaps a bit of an over reaction, even though it's not behaviour you want to encourage.

TheUnMember · 23/05/2012 17:51

It's annoying but I'm not entirely sure what you want the police to do about it.

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SugarBatty · 23/05/2012 17:53

Have you got one of those community support police people in your area you could speak to or a community warden type thing? They might respond quicker.

Its probably quite low down on the police to do list.

designergirl · 23/05/2012 17:55

I just happened to see a policewoman earlier walking around and she said with minors and grafitti what they do is give them a hi viz vest and make them clean up the grafitti themselves. That's what they could do

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bigjoeent · 23/05/2012 17:56

I agree with the above, you've let them know that you're not happy about it.

usualsuspect · 23/05/2012 17:56

YABU , its not a big deal

designergirl · 23/05/2012 17:56

Yes, I know, because its chalk and not permanent marker at least its removable

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usualsuspect · 23/05/2012 17:56

Its a bit of chalk not spray paint

TheUnMember · 23/05/2012 17:59

I just happened to see a policewoman earlier walking around and she said with minors and grafitti what they do is give them a hi viz vest and make them clean up the grafitti themselves. That's what they could do

Did she realise you were talking about 6 year old minors as opposed to 15 year old minors?

Greatauntirene · 23/05/2012 17:59

They will have got the message that you are not going to stand by when this sort of thing is done so, hopefully, it won't happen again.

I would get earplugs for the parties (though also mention to them about the noise/lateness) but falling out with neighbours is not nice so I would try to keep friendly if poss.

Olympia2012 · 23/05/2012 18:01

Give your 'younger' kids a water pistol each, let them have some fun blasting it off!?

Police indeed!

designergirl · 23/05/2012 18:01

Yes I think so TheUnMember

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designergirl · 23/05/2012 18:02

We want to sell our house soon as well Greatauntirene so I don't really want to start a war if possible

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PandaWatch · 23/05/2012 18:06

I really don't think they will do that with a 6 year old - below the age of legal responsibilty and all that.

If I were you I'd write a scary message in response on the wall (in chalk for easy removing purposes!). That'd stop them! Grin

FeakAndWeeble · 23/05/2012 18:08

Police won't do anything because it's non-permanent criminal damage.

They'll only get involved if the graffitti is hate-related (i.e. homophobic, racist) or permanent. If it keeps happening you may get a sympathetic officer who'll agree to attend because the length of time you've had to spend altogether cleaning it off could qualify it as meriting a report of 'permanent'. But you may not.

This is not because the police are lazy btw it's because non-permanent damage is not a recordable offense, so there's feck all they can actually do about it.

Best bet if you really want to speak to someone in authority would be to find a number for your neighbourhood force from their website and give them a ring. You'll get through to a PCSO who may agree to have an informal word.

designergirl · 23/05/2012 18:09

If I did that at all Pandawatch it would be on their wall

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designergirl · 23/05/2012 18:10

lol I could write on their wall next time they have a party "Could you keep the fecking noise down"

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Sirzy · 23/05/2012 18:11

6 year olds who have just learnt the words having a giggle writing them sounds normal to me, certainly not something I would bother the police with

designergirl · 23/05/2012 18:13

I hear you, but that's not how potential buyers are going to see the situation

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usualsuspect · 23/05/2012 18:13

I'm sure my DS drew a cock on my front path once Grin

I did make him clean it off

designergirl · 23/05/2012 18:14

Oh no!

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Sirzy · 23/05/2012 18:16

I agree it's not good, but its not a police issue

designergirl · 23/05/2012 18:46

Greataunt I can't put earplugs on my baby!

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