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Being a mixed race/ dual heritage woman, i have non identical twin girls by a white father - however, one is white with some carib features, while the sister is of a darker skin tone and very aware at the age of 9 and a half of her hairy legs and growing moustache! I remember the trauma at primary school of being teased about my hairyness - problem is, do i give in to my daughters demands and pleas to resolve the problem?

Just veeted my 12 yr pld Dd for the first time a couple of days ago. Unfortunately had to do to the top of her thighs as they were so obvious. Really had no option.

Hoping to continue now by shaving lower legs and veeting top part. No idea how this will pan out in reality. How often will I be having to do the top legs? Such a pain!

YANBU Op. We shaved her lower legs last year but even then she wanted to do the top and TBH I don't blame her.

I'm glad you're letting her get rid of it, though I'd say go with waxing. Yes it will hurt, but being like you myself (mixed race and unfortunately from a hairier background!) I started shaving and it got to a point where my hairs would be showing through again by lunchtime, not good for afternoon PE lessons!
I only started shaving because my Mum, notorious for not shavingbecause she couldn't be bothered, she's very anti-feminine, refused to let me, so I took it upon myself with one of my older sister's razors when I was about 11 and destroyed my legs. The same again happened when my little sister got to high school and my Mum wouldn't let her shave, except that she also destroyed her fingers from rubbing down the blade to get the hair off!

After two/three years of waxing irregularily though most of the hairs on my legs are faint and take so long to grow back (if I shave them they get darker again though!) My armpits on the other hand are a different matter

And do contact the school about the bullying, and really get on their backs about it to make sure they actually do something, especially if it continues!

Turnip - Absolutely not. I totally agree that on some issues, schools have made major head ground on bullying - homophobia, racisam etc. My only concern was that posters were suggesting that it was an issue that should be dealt with by changing societal views. You then suggested that it should be the school that dealt with it.
I guess, I read those two viewpoints and blended them more than you intended.
I just think that you can't rely on a strong message in assembly to change children's opinions and actions. If you know your child will be teased about something that is simply resolved then RESOLVE IT!
My comment on bullying policies was not meant as an attack. I have a young boy about to start school and I just know that he is going to cop it if there are bullies about - he's a bit eccentric. I guess I was hoping that someone had seen schools do something really effective.
I live in hope. In the meantime - there is epilation (won't be so easy for my oddball baby).

Sorry about the spelling. It's 10pm here and I'm enjoying a lovely bottle of red I opened because I thought DH was on his way home form work (2 hours ago).

My dm didn't believe in shaving legs. So I used to pinch df's razor and do it on the quiet. Cut myself quite badly down one leg on the second time I did it, stil got the scar, so, personally I'd say better doing it under supervision.

Only thing is you need to decided what to do when her dt wants to do it too. Dm used to say to me "you're beautiful the way you are" and my dsis (who she let wax eventually) always felt she was saying that she wasn't naturally beautiful.

Please do not Veet or shave her legs. Just get them waxed and I am sure the hair will grow back much finer. I shaved my upper legs aged 13/14 because they had dark blond hair on them and jeepers have I paid for that mistake for the rest of my life (nearly 40 now). I get them waxed now but am finally in a position to look at getting them lasered. A hairy life is not much fun and really affected my self esteem. Your daughter is not going to blaze the way for making natural body hair the norm - unfortunately - so do her a favour and let a professional beautician take care of things.