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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to understand why newbies feel unwelcome when there's a certain group of people on here that think mumsnet is all about them?

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truthful · 23/05/2012 10:47

I really do understand why there is a 'flouncers corner' on this site and I understand why people feel the need to go to it!
Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me! I felt really unwelcome but just thought it was a one off. Ever since then I've begun to realise that its like school on here and theres the 'popular' group who seem to think that everyone should know who they are and so they just hijack everyone elses thread and talk amongst themselves ignoring other people in the process! I was even in a thread yesterday and there was a discussion and one of the popular ones said something along the lines of ' oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?'
To me that was rude and if you know eachother that well then shouldn't you be emailing or private messaging instead of being so rude? I can honestly say I have said something regarding to what the OP was asking and been completely ignored by what send like the usual lot talking about scones or something Hmm
Another thing which I hate is all the private jokes flying around which is between the usual lot and no one else. Fanjo??? Grow up!
The only time people seem to get noticed is when they have changed their name to something like one of the popular peoples names! Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so

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LemarchandsBox · 23/05/2012 21:20

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AmazingBouncingFalcarius · 23/05/2012 21:21

"Instead of moaning with a face like a tit in a breeze..."

I love you NicNocJnr.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2012 21:21

Party rocks rock. >

I have to say, I genuinely don't understand why it is a bad thing to suggest that someone might enjoy an alternative website more, when they are saying how much they hate this site and its members. What's wrong with saying 'If X.com and it so abhorrent to you, why not try Y.com, where the members do and say the things you profess to like, and don't do/say the things you are complaining about?'

And what's the point of staying on a website you dislike so much, just to tell the members how much you dislike it? I've been to other websites, had a look round, and decided they weren't for me - and I just left - I didn't feel the need to parade my dislike.

Apart from anything else, a website, like any other group, has a history, an atmosphere, a loose kind of ethos - and surely, just as it would be rude to march into a choir or art group or reading group, and tell the members you didn't like them or the way the group was run, it is just as rude to do that on the interweb? It seems a lot bit self-centred and self-important to imagine that a website the size of mumsnet is going to change its fundamental nature just because one poster objects.

And frankly, no - we weren't all waiting for you to arrive here and tell us how and where we were going wrong, so that we could bow in humble adoration at your feet and change everything just to suit you (a bit OTT, I know - but you get the drift).

YohoAhoy · 23/05/2012 21:21

Yes, that sort of thing does encapsulate the best of MN I think - a little derail can be very useful.

Sometimes you don't want to start a thread, or haven't even thought about starting a thread, but something will ring a bell or remind you of something (I hadn't thought about the fossils for yonks) and voila :)

And I now have a fossil quiche, so win-win.

Grin
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2012 21:22
AmazingBouncingFalcarius · 23/05/2012 21:23

HnoeyDragon the pup is gorgeous.

On another note what sort of food colouring did you use to get those colours? And did you use just a regular victoria sponge recipe?

Dumpyandabdabs · 23/05/2012 21:25

Stop talking about scones Goddamn it, I'm on a diet! Smile

Ooh and OP YABU there is always a place for a little stupidity tis what makes the world a more beautiful place!!

Oracledocus · 23/05/2012 21:25

fossil quiche.
otherwise known as gransnet

LemarchandsBox · 23/05/2012 21:27

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2012 21:28

A cafe near here serves home made lime and coconut scones, with home made lemon curd - they look utterly scrumptious, and the next time knitting group meets there, I'm having several one.

HoneyDragonWearingLederhosen · 23/05/2012 21:29

ABF - this is the website you need for the cake mix although I used jam and butter cream for the filling and jam to glaze.

I use sugarflair colours, you can get 6 for £11.00 delivered on ebay and they last aaaaaaaaages.

YohoAhoy · 23/05/2012 21:33

I have some scones in the freezer. I might have them for breakfast.

Fossils/crystals are good because they combine pretty sparkliness with a more, shall we say, weathered appearance.

FeakAndWeeble · 23/05/2012 21:35

Small hijack.

If anyone fancies offering some supportive words may I recommend this thread.

Thankee.

AmazingBouncingFalcarius · 23/05/2012 21:40

Honey thank you! I'm sooo doing that for DS's birthday.

HoneyDragonWearingLederhosen · 23/05/2012 21:46

I didn't tell ds until he cut into it Grin - his eyes nearly pinged out!

I's very sweet but nice cake, you need something fairly dense to trim it and it is perfect (as I'm a bit meh about madira cake)

AmazingBouncingFalcarius · 23/05/2012 21:50

That's the reaction im hoping for. Grin

Maryz · 23/05/2012 21:55

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2012 21:59

If you do, pleeease invite me, Maryz - pleasepleasepleasepleaseplease!!!

MrsVamos · 23/05/2012 22:01

I would consider it, Maryz, but it would need to be a fecking great bag to fit in the free food, litter, bed, cuddly toy etc, that would accompany said kittens.

You couldn't just put a kitten into a plastic bag with a bit of cake. You'd squash it. Shock

YohoAhoy · 23/05/2012 22:02

for you mary...

www.stockphotopro.com/photo_of/pink/AG8A6W/Brown_kitten_in_pink

FeakAndWeeble · 23/05/2012 22:05

Put the cake on top of the kitten?

Solved!

FeakAndWeeble · 23/05/2012 22:06

Oh hang on, did you mean you'd squash the kitten or the cake?

I just assumed you were worrying about the cake. Blush

Maryz · 23/05/2012 22:07

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MrsVamos · 23/05/2012 22:07

Well, depends on who made the cake I suppose.....Grin

FeakAndWeeble · 23/05/2012 22:09

I could make it for you. My cakes always have the consistency of house bricks, you could put a whole family of kittens on top of one and they wouldn't even dent it Wink

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