to understand why newbies feel unwelcome when there's a certain group of people on here that think mumsnet is all about them?

[truthful]

I really do understand why there is a 'flouncers corner' on this site and I understand why people feel the need to go to it!
Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me! I felt really unwelcome but just thought it was a one off. Ever since then I've begun to realise that its like school on here and theres the 'popular' group who seem to think that everyone should know who they are and so they just hijack everyone elses thread and talk amongst themselves ignoring other people in the process! I was even in a thread yesterday and there was a discussion and one of the popular ones said something along the lines of ' oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?'
To me that was rude and if you know eachother that well then shouldn't you be emailing or private messaging instead of being so rude? I can honestly say I have said something regarding to what the OP was asking and been completely ignored by what send like the usual lot talking about scones or something
Another thing which I hate is all the private jokes flying around which is between the usual lot and no one else. Fanjo??? Grow up!
The only time people seem to get noticed is when they have changed their name to something like one of the popular peoples names! Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so

I know what you mean about feeling you're the new first former in a playground of the most sixth form girls. That's how I felt when I first joined, 6 years ago now.

But I just joined in. I read avidly and posted carefully. And gradually, it all started making sense and I felt as if I was part of it, not just standing on the edge.

And exactly the same will happen to you too. Before you know it, you'll be joining in with a thread that suddenly becomes a classic, or you're in on a new, in-joke.

Lots of us develop friendships off board as well. Why do we do that? Because we find people with whom we have something in common. It's called making friends - its just a different mechanism for doing so compared with life 20 years ago.

Most popular that should have said ...

I've never noticed it. I'm fairly new to this but don't notice it being particularly clique-y. If I don't understand I ask. Maybe it's because I spend most of my time with blinkers on & don't notice the vast majority of what's going on around me

OP ahem is this:
" Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so "

barely coherent babble aimed at me ? Because I regret I don't understand it. Would you be a lamb and explain??

Yy to leMarchandsBox.
I love the 'god you saddos posting on here all the time' from people who clearly know the site very well and can reference all sorts of stuff.

And the wafty 'i have better things to do' when you just know they switch off to watch Eastenders and pull their chin hairs out with tweezers.

I havent had lamb chops in yonks

lol overreaction to queens post
she didn't say your baby was ugg or owt

ugg or owt = new favourite sm phrase!

Begone trust nae fucker, ugg or owt is number one now.

:o

My reaction was genuine and true. You don't feel the same way, but I don't think that makes me wrong or funny, sm.

I don't have a baby. The ones I did have never wore uggs. Who is the Queen? And in what way is one post more of an over reaction than say, repetitive sneery arsiness?

I am out of practice. This seems more predictable than usual.

plural, Hully.

Oh yes. Plural.

Can one of you say something interesting. I have to perform the lead in Giselle in half an hour.

Eastenders, chinhairs and tweezers.
That made me giggle.
Oops sorry, I'm not allowed to giggle when Pagwatch says something funny

hold the phone.

Giselle? For real?

I'm not specifically addressing you stg
more the hand wring and omg at queens post
it's not the worst I've read on mn
yes certainly mn can be a valuable support
it can also be some burds wi laptops,phones bumping gums
depends what expectation one has of it

One of my babies went off to a concert tonight dressed in tights and uggs (and a skirt of course) and a longsleeved top.

And this is the only day of summer we will have in Ireland this year. I hate uggs.

Oh paggy, how I long to see you pad de deuxing in your frothy tutu

pas

demmit

Oh yes. Pas de deux.

Yes. People should just take what they want from the site. I am not sure why anyone comments on the way anyone else uses the site to be honest unless to try make themselves feel superior.

They do it bcause they have little vipers of spite urging them on in their bosoms. They want to make a mark and don't know how to do it except with spite.

It's sad

scottishmummy you do realise you're royalty don't you?
After all, the phrase was created by you and has been used over and over again.
It's now gone down in MN folklore.

^see, creepy wee brackets.