This happened a few wks ago: my closest friend has children has 2 young DCs as do I. Bit of a distance between us so we dont often get to visit. We drove for an hour, arrived to find the room sparse, all toys packed away...kids standing in middle of room not knowing what to do. The mum sat there eating her lunch. My 4yr old stood behind me on the sofa and was repeatedly told off by my friends saying it's dangerous to stand on a sofa...(her shoes were off, she wasn't on the edge) I didn't think it was unsafe and I'm very safety conscious .
Eventually they brought some enormous pink baby Lego down which the children played with for A few mins. My 7 yr old son sat quietly on the sofa next to me, I eventually gave him my mobile to play on, realising that they would not be bringing any toys out other than the baby Lego. The 6 yr old girl stood up and said "I'm going upstairs, come on mummy, " then glared at my daughter who had the notion of going up with her. So off went mother and daughter upstairs...whilst DD sat in my lap, trying not to cry..
She eventually climbs out of my lap and decides to look around the room, her radar homing in on the 'hidden' toys, about 12 food containers behind the sofa with Lego friends...her eyes light up but my friend jumps in and says no she's not allowed to play with those because of the small parts... (their youngest is 2) at which point dd bursts into heavy sobs with her head buried in my chest and won't stop crying or look up. Fed up, I politely inform my friend that we are leaving due to traffic , despite having been there for no more than 40 mins. At that point he says "oh no, she can do the Lego in the other rooms..," but I already have their shoes on.
It's strange, because whenever their daughter comes to our house (she's 6) she opens every cupboard and helps herself to all the toys, goes upstairs whilst her father affectionately calls her little miss nosy Parker. We don't have these issues with school play dates, never seen anyone hiding away ALL toys...
He is my closest friend of more than 20 yrs, its silly that I'm close yet too embarrassed to say why I feel so bad. He sent a MSG to say hope dd ok when we left but since then no communication. Seems awful to damage a friendship over this but I feel so cross. Obviously, wont be taking DCs there again. Am I being unreasonable? Thank you...