to not want to be spied on

[goldengoblin]

Dh has just revealed he does not know my mn password and is not happy. Surely I am entitled to some privacy, and also a bit disturbed to think that he has been trying access my account. Aibu?

YANBU Why would he want your password?

Nope . DH and dd don't even know my bumsnet name. Private innit.

Yanbu. Dh doesn't know my nic, let alone my password.

yanbu.

Is he usually this controlling, and would he resort to underhanded methjods to get it?

Everyone is entitled to privacy

Yanbu
Is he usually this controlling?

YANBU - DH doesn't know my login etc.
I used to be on a different forum and he wanted to know all my details. I said NO! if you want to go on there then join yourself. So he did, went on it once and never bothered again.

Dh doesn't know mine either OR my username.
I'm not trying to hide anything. It's just none of his business.

Is he being serious?

YANBU

My DH couldn't give a rolling doughnut what I post on MN thankfully but if he asked for my password I'd tell him to get to fuck.

He could still search your posts if he knows username..

@ bumsnet.

YANBU. None of his business.

Why does he need your password? If he wants an account he can set up his own and everyone deserves privacy.

However considering he knows you're on here and if this is posted in your usual name then a search on here will reveal all you've posted. Only thing it won't show is your pm's. Posting stuff on the internet isn't exactly secret.

He is worried that I am writing about him-which to be fair I am. But I just want somewhere private to rant. I had a feeling he was spying on me so changed my password and I also regularly nc. If he really wanted to he could find it out-he's a bit of a computer genius but I genuinally dont think he would.

Check for keyloggers if you can.

That will probably be the next step for him, if he's that paranoid and unreasonable. I know of a couple of posters whose husbands have done this to them.

whats keyloggers?

I think that's what their called. It's a type of software that apparently records the different keystrokes you use on a keyboard and can be used to find out passwords and what other users type on shared keyboards

If its software he has to buy then i should be safe-he's not known for putting his hand in his wallet :-)

If he's a computer genius and could find it himself, why do you think he's asking you for it?

Does he want you to know he's capable of reading you posts?

Have you told him you've posted about him or is he just fishing?

I don't mind DH having a nosy if he wanted to, but then I don't have anything to post about him that he could get shirty about.

It's a bit of a problem choosing a public space like MN to use as a private venting board, and I'd want to see what DH was posting if I thought he was discussing things about me that I wouldn't be comfortable with.

Scary control there wtf would he want or need to know YADNBU?

DH doesn't even know I'm on MN I try and tell him but his eyes glaze over and he says "yes your forum thingy, anyway must go do something elsewhere YAWN"

As it should be in fact!

If i thought i was outing him- i would never post about him. But even he hasn't recognised me when we have been talking posts i've written. i think he's on a bit of a power trip at the moment.

it's your prerogative to post without disclosing to him
but do be aware when rant ,let off steam that mn isn't private

if you use firefox use private browsing option
also firefox, default stores passwords.which can be read and displayed. clear your stored passwords,or else he can view them

Weird?

its not private though is it, its the world wide web!

he is BU
it's still not private though!