to not want to be spied on

[goldengoblin]

Dh has just revealed he does not know my mn password and is not happy. Surely I am entitled to some privacy, and also a bit disturbed to think that he has been trying access my account. Aibu?

Thanks scottish I will clear passwords

I only meant private in the sense no one knows who I really am and so can be more brutally honest.

knowing it's public means I wouldn't post anything that anyone I care about would be upset about so I don't post anything that would upset DH anyway and think people shouldn't feel quite as hidden on forums as they sometimes THINK they are

but he's still UR too

goldengoblin I have identified one MNer who I know in RL, it is DEFINITELY her, and have seen a few others who I think there is a good chance I know in RL

an ex friend got caught "anonomously" ranting about her friends on another site, was identified and the rant was emailed to all her now ex friends

it's really not that anonomous!

I dont think Ive written anything that should upset him but that doesn't mean that I want him knowing everything I write. I like to keep a little bit of me to myself (if that makes sense).

Oh dear. Thats scary, may have to rethink my account.

When you go online, OP, use the private browsing. Have you seen you can do that?

YANBU. DH doesn't know mine but would never ask (I'm usually logged in automatically on the home computer and it's set up to show my own posts in a different colour, so if he wanted to look up my posts he could just look for the ones in a fetching purple, but as far as I know he never has). That's true even though from time to time when DS was very small he posted on here himself, and he quite often suggests that I ask Mumsnet something.

That's not on. Mind you I would love to know what dh was saying, if anything.. natural curiosity in some people but wanting to and thinking you have the right to are two different things.

And yes he is very controlling.