If someone calls your name from another room...

[Arana]

...and you respond with "Yeah? What's up?" (or something similar)

Do you expect the caller to continue the conversation/question, or would you expect to stop doing what you're doing and go to them?

I expect the caller to come to me, if they don't I ignore the call unless they sound in pain of course .

What used to drive me mad was DH yelling "where's the bread/teabags/etc etc.

Never "EMIN where's the whatever" Like I didn't have a name only a function to rush to his bidding Eventually I gave up rowing/sulking about it and now if my name doesn't precede the yell I ignore it Drives him mad now. It's petty but I admit to deriving a tiny frisson of pleasure from his grumpy sighing "oh ok EMIN where's whatever"

Shouting someones name alone is rare in our house nowadays and would usually mean "I need help" of some sort.So the shoutee would be expected to go to the shouter.
Its not a mansion so in all other circumstances it just takes a short walk to another room to have a conversation.

However when the children were young there was a lot of 'checking up on' shouting just to see where everyone was and what they were doing. But it would never have been just a name shouted and nothing to follow the answer - that just sounds weird to me.

We did have a dinner bell though. Invaluable .

I can call DC to come to dinner or for any reason, really, and I expect them to come to me. However, if they call my name, I still expect them to come to me. DH and I are above them in the pecking order.

In a loo roll emergency I will bring some if I am told that is why they are calling. I do think the whole calling someone's name can be a bit of oneupmanship (eg DS1 starting to try to exert his authority, ha!).

Arf at phoning for a tea. I have done this.

We find each other and request things without raising our voices. At mealtimes, I ask someone to round up everyone else although they are starting to hover at about the right time. My MIL shouts from room to room and if I'm in the utility will try to have a shouting conversation from the kitchen. I can't stand it and generally walk into the kitchen and say, I'm sorry but I'm not prepared to shout, if you want to talk to me we can have a cup of tea.

It use to irritate me greatly when DP insisted on talking to me from a different room. If I complained I would be made out to be the petty one. DCs then picked up on the habit.

Now I just ignore the children and with DP I'll go "yes sure but" and then mumble mumble and then go "is that ok?".

If I can't stop them then at least I can get some fun out of it.

I hate yelling about the house i usually get MUUUMM , what is it , i then expect them to come and speak to me but nooo they just go blah blah i cant here them because either the washing machine on or they are mumbiling into their hands , I live in a flat everythign is 5 steps away , it does my head in Dh is the same , dont shout come and speak

My mum used to do this when I was upstairs in my room:
Thumb!
Yes?
Thumb!
What is it?
THUMB!!
WHAT DO YOU WANT??
can you come here please?
What for?
..
..
..
This could go on a while until I gave in and went downstairs for whatever - usually turned out to be something UTTERLY trivial that I really would not have bothered to go down for if she'd only fecking well told me what it was in the first place! Wound me up something rotten.

Now, because of this, I don't go find the person calling until they tell me what it is they want of me!

hear*

DH and I have rows about this too. If I speak to him from another room that is unreasonable. If he speaks to me from another room I am the unreasonable one for not hearing him properly.

Unless it's an emergency there is no need to shout at each other through walls (very young children excluded, of course).

There is no urgency unless an emergency to forget respecting everyone in the house. You want me, you come to me. I want you, I come to you. We are equal in respect to each other.

You muttering from another room? You're just muttering. Carry on. I'm busy doing nothing

Agree with most - it depends on the situation.
If dcs call me, I shout "in the kitchen/lounge/bedroom / wherever" as I see it as them trying to locate me.
If I'm cooking and it's a mealtime, I expect them to come when I shout them - I'm not going round the house looking for everyone and inviting them all personally to join me in the kitchen, I stand in the hall and shout "dh,ds,dd1,dd2, TEATIME", and generally anyone who is near someone else who has their door shut and music on, will tell them as they pass.
If I wanted dh (or any of the dcs) to come and help me do a job, I'd go look for them, and judge - depending on what they are doing - if I insist they come or if I ask if they'll help when they've finished or decide to leave them and find someone else or do job later.
There's no hard and fast rule.

ds would just text / phone me from his bedroom

I refuse to have shouted conversations with anyone. I get especially mutinous if they make continued attempts to speak to me by shouting my name repeatedly. It's rude. Pure and simple.

Well I go to talk to my other half only to find he has his headphones on and so I have to go right up to him and repeat myself! very annoying

Ooh, I hate this, but it happens a lot in our house as it's a townhouse, with the kitchen and sitting room on different floors. Equally irritating whether you are the shouter who is not being responded to or the shoutee being interrupted.

i would expect either another call to say what it is, or that person to seek me out.

i would not expect to have to go to them if they have called me.
(eg, if it's "dinner!", then i would go to them, or if it's something they can't move from (in which case "help!" will suffice))

This is one of my Red Mist Descends issues.
I expect DC to come & find me & I always go to them (reasonable exceptions allowed, like if someone is shouting from the door because they have dog muck on their feet).

All of us can manage to follow these principles, except DC-nearly-8yo who still screeches from a distance daily, sigh.

Ooh this drives me mad!

DH does it all the time, we live in a flat. He normally calls me from the kitchen, which is right next to the living room! Just walk a couple of goddamn steps!!

If he shouted "Empusa could you come here?" that would be ok, but just yelling "Empusa!" then refusing to respond when I ask what he wants is just infuriatingly rude! Always makes me feel like he thinks anything I am up to is non-important.

I would go and find them or ask them to come to me. In this house the rule is you don't carry on a conversation with someone in a different room.

This drives me insane at work!!

Peeeeeeannnnuuuuttttt......and expect me to find them.
If you want me come and find me, don't holler down the corridor

DH calls me from the computer and seems to expect me to come running. I think his thought process is that he usually does it when he wants to show me something on the computer, so if he went to find me we would then both have to walk back to the computer. I can sort of see his point that this would be a waste of time, but I still find it annoying that he wants me to drop everything to be at his beck and call. I do usually do it though mug

We have a no shouting from the other room rule as well. I think it's inconsiderate and I get very irritable about it, so it's for my sanity not to do it.

Oh yes, I argue with dp about this all the time! He insists on trying to start conversations when he is sitting in the bath, expecting me to drop what I'm doing and go to him. Drives me mad! [anger]
They should come and find you of they want to speak to you

If I call dh, he often shouts, " hang on," drops everything and comes to me. Drives me mad. All I wanted was to know where he was or give him a supershort message. I find it pa, especially as with 2 small kids there are times when I have to shout, not just laziness! If I need him to come its an emergency and I say so!