to loathe bum licking of people with money?

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Odd title I know!

But does anyone else have experiences of this? It does my head in. I'm on an online forum on facebook with a group of women and we all had babies at a similar time. There are about 40 of us on this group.

One of the group appears to be comfortably off and the group seems to revolve around her. If she's not there for a few days people are worrying about her and posting messages to see if she is ok. When she posts photos of her house on facebook everyone is falling over themselves to comment and bum lick. She posts photos of her kids and again everyone is doing the same, commenting about how wonderful their clothes are and how gorgeous they look. She might post a status saying they've been to the cinema or for a pizza and everyone will post about what exciting things they do and how wonderful her life and family is. When she goes on holiday the whole group is on tenterhooks wondering how she's getting on, with some members texting her to check she's arrived safely. She ordered a new washing machine and you'd think she'd ordered a £100,000 Ferrari from how some went on about it.

She is currently selling her house and she gets tagged daily on the Facebook group from groupies asking for an update about the house sale and where is she moving to and oh what a silly viewer the one yesterday was as surely they should snap up a house like hers as it's just so wonderful. It's all getting rather sickening.

I can't help feeling that if she lived in a council house, she and her husband were on the dole and dressed their kids from charity shops that she wouldn't get the amount of attention she does. By the way she seems a fairly nice person but also quite self absorbed. It seems like loads of the group members want to be her and live their life through her.

Quite ridiculous, but it does happen.

I don't think the money is the problem here. It's the odd people who have nothing better to do than follow someone else life.

You could leave this group and find some normal people you know

It just makes me wonder what makes people decide to follow one person and kiss their bum, and with this woman the money and hers and her kids appearances is the only thing I can think of. As I said, she is quite self absorbed and doesn't really offer much support or advice to others, she tends to just post about herself.

Haven't you seen the way people fawn over Zenia on here?

it is excruciatingly pathetic.

People seem in awe of anyone who has money or a better lifestyle than them. I just don't know why, it puts me off people if everyone is up their arse

It's wierd isn't it? But it happens a lot!

It probably has a lot to do with people's own self esteem. Don't let it wind you up, just avoid it.

There are very few things I loathe more in life than hearing the terms "bum licking" "arse licking" and "brown nosing". Just the words alone put such a disgusting image in my head ... yuck.

I have money. I don't get fawned over....but then I am not everyone's cup of tea

This is one of my bugbears. My parents used to have a lot of money. Then they lost it all. They found out who their real friends were. I learned a lesson about people and money at an early age.

I stay well, well away from anyone befriending the rich. I find it abhorrent.

I find it irritating that everyone is so taken in by her. I wouldn't say she is actually rich as such; she seems comfortably off in that she doesn't work, her house seems nice and well decorated, although it's just a normal house really, certainly not a half a million self build on 3 acres of land, and she and her kids dress fairly well. She does brag a fair bit though so perhaps thats why some minions seem to think she is rich or perhaps compared to them she is rich and they aspire to her lifestyle

Maybe everyone really likes her, maybe she is really appealing, maybe you are jealous..... Just maybe

Nope not jealous.

I just can't see her appeal as I said. She doesn't seem to offer anything to anyone else, it's all about her. One person recently split from her husband. This woman didn't reply to her on the thread about it or offer her any support but she did post at the same time about what she had planned for that weekend.

Who cares. Would you rather they stalked you? Yes it is odd but why be involved with these dull people. They sound like pillocks.

I know what you mean op

at the school gates I seen a new mum recently get out of a big flash beamer and a group of women nearly trampled each other over in the rush to help her

if she's got out a white van they wouldn't have bothered

sad really

FayeGovan, that's exactly what I mean. And I just can't understand why people feel they want to be all over someone with money

Oh money is it? I knew there must be some reason why Alan Sugar isn't more frequently told to go fuck himself.

lol @ rightbuggerforit

And I've literally never seen this, probably because everyone I know is fucking skint.

I don't think it's to do with money tbh. I think some people just have a confidence about them that makes other people lose rational thought.

You're not wrong about the bumlickers but it's not about money, it's just an attraction (rather like flies are to shit ).
Don't let them get to you. You could leave the group and move on...
FB can bring out the worst in some folks.

My SIL has a stalker bum licker friend on fb. What ever she posts on fb the friend comments 'Oh you're such a good Mum, you're amazing!' What because she's the only parent who has EVER taken her DC to the farm/seaside/cinema/whatever
No idea if that's money realated though, as in one breath SIL is 'really well off, so glad her DH has such a well paid job' and in the next 'so skint I have to buy the boys clothes in a charity shop'

I totally detest this too, OP!

I find it vomit-inducing. People that are fawned over are normally shallow, full of themselves and braggers. More fool the twunts that are taken in by people like that.

I too cannot comprehend why there is this tremendous need to suck up to anyone that appears to have money. It's hardly like said wealthy person is going to say 'you're such an arse licker here is a cheque for £200 ' is it?

Ah, that's where I am going wrong - not a bragger or full of myself. Was bit concerned that I don't seem to have the group of acolytes I am entitled to!

I entirely agree with bibbitybobbitybunn.

As for your FB group, it is probably a case of participants wanting to feel well-off by association. No harm in that, but if does wind you up (understandably so) find a new FB group or better yet a RL group.

LOL @ well off by association, VolvoMo. I can't for the life of me understand why anyone would want to try to do that. How funny