To be confused about DDs sex-ed question?

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This past two weeks DD has been having the Sex Education talks at school.

She's come back with a few queations regarding periods and the general view that she will adopt any children :o

BUT, today, she has 'the Boy talk' and asked about the voice changing etc. Then she said that someone in the class asked about gay sex. The girl asked specifically how gay men had sex.

The teacher replied that she is not allowed to tell them how gay sex happens and that is something thy have to ask their parents.

Is that right? Are they not allowed to tell the children?

It's not a faith school btw (not that I think that should make a difference tbh)

Ooh, someone else with a humping cat. Ours seems to have forsaken that habit, thank goodness, since he had bits cut off.

Ds asked me about gay sex last year when he was 10 - I told him and that was that, I'm glad he can ask me about things he is curious about.

I think the school should tell the kids in a matter of fact way. I wonder if it is because the subject is a science lesson at that age rather than 'proper sex ed?'

I don't think you can say 'gay sex is x', because it isn't, necessarily.

It's important that children understand about procreative sex, cos it gets you pregnant, but you don't really need to start going into mutual masturbation, oral sex, rimming, fisting, or whatever else people might do.

Devora thanks so much for your posts. I honestly don't think posters like Sirzy realise how unwittingly offensive they are being, and discriminatory.

No, heterosexual sex is not more necessary than gay sex. Actually given that we have far too many people on the planet, rather less, I would say.

This kind of attitude feeds insidiously into wider prejudice about gay sex. One of my closest friends is a lesbian and she gets shockingly inaccurate information from GPs on a regular basis about her sexual risks, inc such gems as women can't give each other STIs, and she doesn't need smear tests!

Again, the frankly Victorian attitude that Real Sex is for Reproduction Only (just lie still and close your eyes) and other sex is just frivolous. Why can't you just teach the children that there are a variety of sexual practices?

Agree RevoltingPeasant.

Has anyone seen on Twitter or elsewhere today about the MP for Hendon?

One of his constituents had written to him asking him to support the gay marriage consultation & he replied saying he wouldn't because marriage can only be between a man and a woman 'for the purposes of procreation'.

By that token, then, a woman aged 50 shouldn't be able to marry...if she can't procreate any more? Stupid man.

I suspect the teacher might have been concerned about 11 yr olds being tempted to insert things into their bottoms, thereby giving staff at the local A&E a good giggle!

The question sounds a bit like a dare to me. And the teacher's answer sounds like a panic - I'm sure the teacher isn't not allowed to answer, they just don't feel comfortable doing so. If that is the case it's a shame the teacher didn't just say 'Sorry, I don't want to answer that question, but perhaps your parents will.' She might also have had one eye on the ignorant bigots who would come in the next morning demanding why their kids' teacher had been talking about pornographic practices in the classroom.

I should have put 'pornographic practices' in inverted commas.

euro why would they do that anymore than going off to have sex as soon as they learn about vaginal sex?