We had a visit today from the health visitor who we haven't seen in aaaggges (which I'm not unhappy about as I don't really like her) - not really sure why they decided to do a visit as DS's are now 4 & 5 but could be because DS2 has autism possibly?
Anyways, I've always found her a bit, I dunno, off, she just always has this disapproving look on her face that makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong!
While she was here she brought up DH's previous mental health and made notes about the fact that he is no longer receiving councilling or taking antidepressants - this was not a problem but she went on to say that the fact DH will be our sons full time carer when I return to work after college 'an issue' and that it was 'a concern' because of his mental health.
Since when do people with mental health issues become incapable of looking after their children?
Ok, maybe some people might not be but DH has had no MH issues for a number of years and is currently fine (hence no AD's or councilling).
She also said that maybe I should only work part-time so that I could let him work part-time because 'most men feel like they need to work'.
I just didn't like that she was implying that:
because DH has had MH issues in the past he is not capable of looking after his children
his MH issues are probably caused by the fact he isn't working and therefore feels less like a man
any MH issues he did or does have would be magically fixed by him going to work.
She also seemed very cats bum mouth about the fact that we have moved the boys' bedroom around and they currently: share a bed, have a tv in their room and make a mess in their bedroom (because no 4&5 yr old boys do that ).
I probably AMU but I just hate the way she makes me feel that everything I do isn't good enough and like I expect a letter from the social to drop through the door after her visits :(
Am I just being overly sensitive?