or is my sister?

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i have a shite relationship with my sister at the best of times, so i may be being the U one, but i wanted to check!
dsis is pregnant, and i said yesterday that oh and i cant wait to be auntie and uncle to the baby.
she then says that baby will not be calling my oh ( married 8 yrs, been together 12) uncle as my children do not call her husband uncle. my children are 5, 8 and 13. and she has only b een with her oh 3 yrs, married 1 yr.
so my chidren havent started calling him Uncle as he is very new in their lives.
are me and my oh being U wanting to be auntie and uncle when her husband is not called uncle by our children?

To be fair if you and your oh are not married then he is not the baby's uncle an uncle is your mothers brother or your aunts husband. My children did not call my sisters husband uncle until they were married because he wasn't their uncle he was their aunts partner they just called him by his name. On their wedding day they started calling him uncle as that is now what he is. My brother had a long term partner he was with when my oldest was born and she never called her aunt cos she wasn't. They then broke up and he is marrying someone else in the summer and after they are married she will be known as auntie or not as my brother likes all his nephews and nieces to call him by his name. My niece doesn't call me aunt just my name and it doesn't bother me at all she knows I am her aunt and she comes to me if she needs anything we still have a relationship and always will regardless of what she calls me.

I've never called anyone in my family Aunt Y and Uncle X either - there's no need for it. What's the point? Why the need to put their faily relationship title before their name, unless every male in the family is called John or whatever.

I think if it's normal in your family not to call people uncle etc then there isn't a problem. I was brought up as a child to call adults Mr or Mrs x if they weren't a relative and still feel that young children calling adults by their first name is rude. With step parents it hasd become more acceptable.
If my brother told me his wife was upset that my kids didn't call her auntie though i would insist my kids call her auntie as I wouldn't want to upset my SIL.

I am constantly amazed on mumsnet about the ridiculous things people get upset over but this takes the biscuit. It makes me very glad to be an only child, because I could could not be arsed with any of it!

I think if all other uncles are called uncle except this one then it isn't a ridiculous thing to get upset about. The comment only came about because the OP said they couldn't wait to be uncle and aunty to the baby. I like my kids calling me mum, I like my nephews and nieces calling me aunt/ aunty.
Plenty of people call me Rebecca, the mum/aunt thing is special. I'm sure I'll feel the same about a granny type name.