Friend has got the hump because DD (11) spelt out the word vagina during a scrabble game with her 7 year old DS

[sandyballs]

What's wrong with that? AIBU to find it deeply unshocking. I'm more perturbed by the fact that she probably cheated and rummaged through the bag for a v or a g to come up with that. Surely a 7 year old knows what a vag is? At least its factual and she spelt it correctly.

I would understand my friend's attitude if DD had put twat or fanny.

And as the owner of an 11 year old, I find it very hard to believe that she just found the word and put it down, as if it was any other 6 letter word. She would have done it for effect, and I would have been displeased if I had found out what she had done.

But if I had been the mother of the 7 year old, I wouldn't have complained. I would have said something slightly sharp to the 11 year old and moved swiftly on.

plus people seem to get offended by the word vagina, but not so much by "penis"... Very bizarre... Some sort of linguistic sexism...

Of course you can use th word freely. But by 11 I would expect my children to know that not everyone feels the same. And if you're not sure you err on the side of caution. Particularly if you are dealing with a much younger child.

I was taught decorum once.

Then lost it along with my car playing poker with navvies while drinking Bud straight from the bottle.

if you said something sharp to my 11yo when all she did was spell correctly a tricky word, you would know about it seeker

I always use correct words.

Time and place IMO.

Nothing wrong with the word at all, I can't stand prissy names actually.

But, I still think the DD did it to shock/show off!

Maybe the Mum of the little boy hadn't 'gone there' yet?

Maybe she wanted to explain things her way? who knows?

I can't believe there are people out there who think Vagina is not an age appropriate word for a 7yr old.

It's an age appropriate word for everyone imo.

well, I dislike it when parents DON'T teach the correct words, as if genitals are something to be ashamed of, but I don't get annoyed with them and don't say anything... It's the kind of thing that should be reciprocated IMO

at the idea of a proper anatomical term not being 'age appropriate'. At what age are we allowed to acknowledge other parts of our body? Clearly I have missed something important. Is it OK to talk about knees as a 3 year-old, but taboo to mention ankles until 5?

Chaos - I think I may have found your decorum in a back street bar I had to hide in once. Bloody drug dealer was after me! Anyway - I handed it in to reception - I'm sure it's still there.

I cannot believe you people who want to make such badness of a word! Why? Just why?

LOL Veronica

"f you said something sharp to my 11yo when all she did was spell correctly a tricky word, you would know about it seeker"

You'd have known about it here too. And you wouldn't have liked what you learned. Vagina. It's a part of the human body. There's no more a reason for another parent to "say something sharp" to a child who spells out "vagina" than there would be if she spelled out "leg".

Good grief!

of course it is the correct word...its not the point is it?

Come on...

I suspect the 11 yr wanted a reaction from the little boy...

That is all.

Normal 11 year old behaviour.

Seeker advises the application of caution around the use of the word VAGINA. That being so I think we can pretty much discount anything she says about anything don't you?

I too would have expected an 11 year old to have used a bit of common sense when playing with a 7 year old. I don't think it was clever or appropriate.

I was talking to my other half yesterday about this, and he was insistent that whatever we called DD's bits, it wouldn't be vulva!

I wish I'd known the word as a child instead of always having to say 'privates', bleurgh. My mother was quite sensible about these things so I'm not sure why I didn't.

Still, at least I worked out early on what the vagina actually is. Number of kids I've heard use it as if it's the vulva is v annoying; not least because correcting a 14 year old in the street is probably not appropriate...!

poshbird - sorry I just can't resist.
You don't wee out of your vagina.

I know, I know - you didn't mean that but I couldn't stop myself!!

You women think you are all so cool laughing about 'keeping decorum'

It makes me laugh...

Twilight "Some sort of linguistic sexism..."

Cunnilinguism?

"My 7 year old ds has a friend- she's 11. They were playing Scrabble last night, and I heard them giggling. When I went to see what they were laughing at, I saw that she had spelled Vagina. Now my ds knows the proper words for body parts, but but he was a bit embarrassed. It's not a big deal, but AIBU to think that she was being abhit silly and should have known better at her age?"

But the 11yr old wouldn't have got any kind of reaction from the boy if his Mum wasn't such a twat.

If he was used to perfectly normal words like vagina, the only reaction she would have got was him moaning about the scores!

I'm not entirely sure what you're laughing about feminine - and sadly I don't think you are either. Can you perhaps expand and make it clearer for us?

Is that something to do with speaking in tongues.