to say "thanks but fuck off"?

[whoknowsnotme]

Aaaghhh!!!

Im just so so so fed up of people questioning my parenting!
"baby should be on solid food by now" erm no, shes only 5 months
"baby should be sleeping through the night by now" how the fucks that your business?
"still breast feeding?!" no shit sherlock
"my baby was doing...by this stage"
"my baby was way further at ..."
" I've had three babies, i think i know what i am talking about"

.... i am just so so sick of being polite about it! I get this all the time, from friends with kids, friends without kids, and then to add insult to injury i get friends getting all shirty and offended if i don't take their advice, as if ive just insulted them or something!

It seems that everyone has a way for me to do things better ie the way they did it. Since when is ok for people to comment on the way other people choose to bring up their own children???

My dd is a very happy, chunky, healthy, loved little girl. Any idiot can see this so why oh why are people advising that i change the way i do things??

I do not want more "adult time"
I do not want to go back to work to feel fulfilled
I do not need you to tell me im spoiling my child with hugs/too much contact
I do not want to leave my child crying to show her "who is boss"
I do not want to listen to your unsolicited advice

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Are you me? Seriously, apart from my DD being 4 months not 5 I could have written that OP. Amongst other well-meant but bloody stupid advice, I've had MIL wanting me to start her on solids at 8 weeks, FIL on at me to "just leave her to cry" since she was born, basically, and the HV saying she's overweight and I should put her on formula (she's EBF) so I can "control" how much she's getting, which makes no bloody sense.

Next time it happens, I'm going to turn to DD, point at the offending person and instruct her to "Kill!" Then, when she just sits there like the dribbly little lump she is at the moment, I shall turn back to them with a smile and say "sorry, we're still working on that".

My SIL is always saying "You two (as in DH and I) need a good night out in a really irritating way. She has a DS a few months younger than ours and has two sets of grandparents ready and willing to babysit. We have no family, don't want to get a babysitter and frankly are perfectly happy having a nice meal in and a film. We've been together 13 years, we have been out a million times.

When the PILS came to visit I was given the full "just disappear off, he won't notice " at 15 months?! "He's got to get used to being without you" - erm, no he doesn't actually as I'm not planning on going anywhere.

Luckily I am forthright (possibly verging on rude) and they soon calmed down with the "advice" and are great GPs when they just get on with it!

Yanbu . Mums friend told my mum I give DD too Michael attention but "she'll learn"! My mum sent me a fantastic rangy email.

stupid me for not putting the attention seeking little madam - four months old - in a corner, putting my hands over my ears and going "lalalala" all day

Clearly I'm a shit parent because my DD is a happy, content little girl.

Too much. Not too Michael. NAK and it's 5.30am and I'm having the audacity yo breast feed my DD.

I think people are just trying to be nice and share with you some things that worked for them. I think you sound rude

my son is 15 mths and my mum and sis are still doing this to me hahaha yes I am tired as he doesn't sttn but no - cio is not the way I want to go - seriously at least twice a week I have this conversation and keep having to justify myself over and over

YANBU

Tell them ... adding "And when you come back, fuck right off again!"

I would hate to be a new mum these days, there seems far more pressure to do it 'right' than 10 years ago when I had ds.

YANBU

Whenever I give any advice (gleaned from my, ooh, 11 months of parenting experience) it is only ever in response to a stated problem from the mum I'm talking to.

And even then I load it up with the disclaimer of 'but they're all different, so it might not work, but please don't think I'm talking crap if it doesn't because it did work for us!'

It's the people who clearly think they know best that really piss me off. The ones proferring helpful advice in a non-pushy way are warmly welcomed and rare

apparently replying 'why' a lot and saying 'no he doesn't' pisses people right off

Just smile, nod and say I am the happiest luckiest mum in the world and you know what I will do things my way.

Usually it's people trying to help( and being annoying) and u being a bit thin skinned as I think we all are with baby 1..

By baby 4 u r ready to tell them all to fuck the fuckity fuck off but by then noones interested anymore.