Need advice on a sensitive topic

[hertsfem55]

I live in my Mothers house who is 90 and has dementia, I moved in 10 years ago and now, am my Mothers full time carer. The house is ex council and was bought by my Brother, for my parents until their death and then it goes to him. He works in Saudi Arabia and has 2 children , having sent the first, back to England to the house 6 years ago at 16 to study for her A levels.
He paid me £25 a week for her keep, that included everything , plus all the lifte etc to and fro parties etc. 2 years ago he sent the other girl and has continued to pay me £25 a week. She will be leaving school this year and will contuine to live here, however she has a boyfriend who spends almost everyday here and I need advise on how much she now should be paying ,as it's been £25 a week for 6 years.

?The role of proprietary estoppel seems self-evident: it provides for the informal creation of interests in land whenever a person has acted detrimentally in reliance upon an oral assurance that he has such an interest. Oral grants of interests by themselves, therefore, are insufficient; but act in reliance upon some such assurance, and proprietary estoppel will validate what the law of Property Act says has no effect.?

www.inbrief.co.uk/land-law/proprietary-estoppel.htm

If you indicate which area you are in OP (or PM me) I am happy to take a look at what resources you have locally to try and get as much free legal advice as possible.

Take up Wheezo's offer OP. Start gathering information with someone who knows what they are talking about. Your brother is not treating you fairly and you should not have to leave your home. I think the issue with the daughters is secondary to this.

Thank you all for taking time to read and respond to my postings. It is very much appreciated.

£25 won't even buy a tank of petrol these days. I think he is taking you for granted and also is totally out of touch with what things cost in the uk at the moment.

OP, sorry to ask this again, but I think it will matter if you do go down any legal route. What has your mothers pension been used for over the years? Has it been used to pay for repairs or maintenance?

Hope you get somewhere OP. Please post again.

Have messaged you OP with some details of law centres you might try and see? Can imagine it's very tricky with your mum but the sooner the better if you can.

OP, I really feel for you. It's a shit situation. But why do you keep doing stuff/paying for stuff for your niece without asking her or her dad for something towards it? I get that he didn't ask about sending his daughters to you at 16, but I don't understand why you didn't challenge that. Why you don't challenge him now.

Are you afraid of him for some reason? Or are you hoping that he'll let you stay in the house after your mother's passing if you bend over backwards to accommodate him now?

Not having a go in any way, you sound lovely. I'm just trying to understand why you're allowing this to happen.

And I would stop doing your niece's laundry if I were you. She is old enough to do that for herself.

www.lawworks.org.uk/list-of-lawworks-member-clinics#clinics_southeast

Is there anything here local to you?

www.lawworks.org.uk/list-of-lawworks-member-clinics#clinics_southeast

sorry forgot to make it clickable

That's really kind of you Wheezo. I hope you can be of some help.

Hertsfem, hope you are ok at reading all this.

Maybe OP should invoice her brother for his share of the cost of caring for their mother? I imagine it's a damn sight more than 25 quid a week

Seriously get some good advice in RL about all this as others have said. None of it seems fair at all. From what you've written you wont have a pot to piss in once your poor mum passes away.

Maybe OP should invoice her brother for his share of the cost of caring for their mother?

OP gets carers allowance of £89.

But what doesnt add up for me here, OP says she pays all bills and food. But her mother will get a pension too, so who spends that?

89+25 is 114. I imagine after paying food, petrol, phone, water, gas etc then her Mums pension gets spent too especially if any repairs needed doing. I don't think you need legal advice yet op but I do think you need to talk to your brother about your finances now and your future in the house.