To be shaking with rage...

[diamondsonthesolesofhershoes]

Because my 'd'p has just destroyed one of my belongings?

Got in from work an hour or so ago and DP has 2 friends round, both I know and like. DP has done a 14 hour day split between 2 jobs so is knackered. He spilled a beer on the kitchen floor, his mates were ribbing him. I laughed and he turned to me, threw the bottle opener into the sink (with force) and smashed a plate. His friends went quiet and just stared around awkwardly while he cleaned the beer. I challenged him about it and he ignored me

The plate was the last of a set my mum and dad had as a wedding present nearly 30 years ago. It was only a cheap one but I love the pattern and it's just one of things that are a bit special to me.

I left them to it and went to bed but I'm so angry and sad that he's smashed up something dear to me and humiliated me in front of his friends :(

I actually feel like a real knob for posting this having calmed down.

I think I did put too much emphasis on the plate though, it was the look on his face, the force and fact he lost it in front of friends... all seems a bit silly now. I felt embarrassed and a bit shaken, that's why I reacted in the way I did. For the record, by "challenging" him, I mean I asked why he had started throwing things. And when I say I laughed, I laughed at something his friend said, not at him.

Thank you TheHouseOnTheCorner, that's a lovely suggestion and I will look into it.

Earlybird, I work the same amount as him and bring in more money, he has just ended up working 3 jobs due to redundancy last year.

Glad you feel better about it.

By the way, I think my post may have come across less than well . I'd done a long post before that and lost it and retyped very succinctly. It was just that I could put myself in your dh's shoes and I was trying to say how he might have felt.

I love those necklaces that TheHouseOnTheCorner linked to.

Don't feel embarassed.Of course you were upset!! Glad it's all blown over It's a storm in a teacup

Glad you feel a bit better OP. Sods law it would be that particular plate got broken.

I don't think he intended to break the plate but by throwing something in temper I don't think it can completely be called an accident either.

It sounds like everyone was tired and not at their best, he overreacted and then made a bad situation that bit worse by breaking something he knows you care about even if he didn't intend to when he threw the bottle opener. Sometimes knowing you are in the wrong makes you behave even worse.

Hope you are both feeling better about it all today.