Too push to push!!!

[Lovemychocolate]

Went to baby clinic a few weeks ago, to find a group of mums loudly ranting and laughing about mums who were too posh to push. They were saying that those that had cs weren't proper mums. I have had two cs ... One emergency that was due to foetal distress and in fact my baby had to be resuscitated. My second was due to low lying placenta. Both medically necessary and both unwanted.

One of the mums was bottlefeeding her LO by having a bottle propped up in the pram (have no opinion on ff but not sure propping up is not a good idea). I bf both of mine and would never dream of mentioning what I view as a personal choice.People condemn the 'breastapo' rightly or wrongly but no one seems to think how you give birth should be your own business

Aibu to think that being a mum is hard enough without people castigating others for decisions which are frankly no one else's business and may be hurtful to others. Surely mums should stick together

Oh leave the silly nutters to it. CS is just one of the ways of giving birth and you've done what was right for your babies so don't let them get your goat.

I genuinely couldn't care less how anyone has their baby...in fact I can't think of a more boring topic of conversation.

I'm not sure why 'mums should stick together' though, because 'mums' are all individual people with individual views and choices.

I think they're appearing very uneducated but tbh I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of how I gave birth, just let comments like that wash over you

I agree Worra

"I'd rather have a c then no baby at all"-normally shuts people up. A relative went through that & is living with the regret
People are too smug. If it was good enough for Caesar then it's good enough for you

What is a natural birth any way. I had a virginal birth but it was far from natural as I was induced and hate a synton drip to make me contract. The birth of my children was very medical.

I thought these views on csection was in the past

She judged you, You judged her. Both ridiculously.

YA both BU.

Ditto Mchappy!

Nothing was "natural" about DSs birth.

Next time show them your scar

deep breath, and remember that they are obviously insecure and unhappy in themselves if they need to lash out like that

and you can push AND still have a CS - some are done quite late in labour!

oh and I agree with you re propping bottles, IMO if you BF OR FF, feeding time is for eye contact and cuddles!

I agree with Worra but, having endured VCB and an ELCS I'd be inwardly laughing at their ignorance, safe in the knowledge that my section was a calm, happy, controlled and pain free experience whilst their "natural" childbirths may well have been quite the opposite.

you haven't by any chance massively exaggerated just a little bit?

I think that you have just encountered some people who just seem to need to find reasons to squash other people down. For some, it's smugness for having given birth 'properly', who look down on others for having had CS. For others, it's smugness at having BF, looking down on those who FF. Some people who use reusable nappies judging people for using disposables... The list goes on.

Sensible folk won't care which way you gave birth or how you fed your baby. Just be glad that you are not so bored that you need to get all catsbum mouthed about other peoples choices and experiences.

I have experienced similar as a mother who had elcs and who breastfed.

I am always confused by why it's OK to brag about giving birth 'all naturally' but if I were to brag about feeding my babies 'all nsturally' I'd probably get my face slapped.

When I was preparing for my second cs, I had people ask me if I didn't want to do it properly this time. I wouldn't dream of asking someone if they wanted to feed their baby properly thus time - and can well imagine the response I'd get if I did. (rightly, as it would be an appalling thing to say)

Kickingking: WTF? You were asked if you wanted to do it properly!!!

Proper birth= live mother & baby.

How the hell did you not punch them?

I often saw people told how well they did because they had quick easy natural labours on front of me. Of course they should be congratulated (as every new mum should) but not disproportionally more than people who actually endured MORE to bring their chidl into the world than they did, they were just lucky.

An intervention free birth is no badge of will power or strength or "good pain threshold" as anyone who has a variety of birth experiences will tell you, it's just the way the cookie crumbles!

I was wondering that too, cats.

It was my SIL. Asked if I would have a home birth thus time. A very stupid question as any pregnancy of mine is high risk because of my medical history (which she knows) so would never be slippers a home birth. I said no, it'll be another cs.

To which she said 'but don't you want to do it properly this time?'

Good thing I didn't or she could have really upset me

All births are proper, you can't fake A birth lol

doesn't sound exaggerated to me, sounds familiar

If anyone asks me if I'm going to have a "real" birth this time, I'm going to say "god no, I'll be having one of them new virtual births, far less mess!"

Slippers = allowed!

I chose to have a cs with ds. My choice. Couldn't give a fig about what anyone elsi thinks, and my god, over the past ten years since I had him I have had many other women being shocked at my birth choice, some even demanding to know why I chose a cs (I had ds at 21 so it's only now all my friends from school are having first babies, it's like they invented it, so I've got a whole new wave of the bullshit).

It used to bother me, but now I don't care. I couldn't care a less if people have a cs or want to give birth up a tree.

@ slippers