Friend is very relaxed about 15 year old daughter having sex.

[ShutUpMeg]

A while ago (when she was still 14) friend found a condom in daughters bedroom.

She has now found out that daughters boyfriend has been coming over when she's at work and when she stays out for the night leaving her in the house alone. The daughter has also asked for (and received) a double bed.

They're obviously having sex.

I asked how she felt about that and she shrugged her shoulders shyly and said she "doesn't want to interfere".

She's literally just turned 15. Am I an old prude then? I couldn't imagine being so laid back about this!

Joe, you are 15 ? Well, I never....

but it is difficult to get pregnant, anyway

Not for everyone and especially not when you are young, healthy and haven't yet used hormone changing contraceptives.

I know that it is not 'hard for girls these days' - neither my friends or I have felt any pressure to have sex

That's your group, it's very different for others and those that are vulnerable are targeted and give in easier.

Don't most teenagers have double beds in their bedrooms?

Cockypants- can you enlighten us as to how you are going to stop your 15 yo daughter from having sex.I am dying to know.

Erm, but it is difficult to get pregnant, anyway tell that to my friends who had accidental pregnancies who had been told by doctors that they would never get pregnant, those who got pregnant whilst on the pill, those with the implant etc...

Joe- have a chat to the girls/women who got pregnant on the pill and didn't realise until 5/6 months. You are always taking a risk, never forget that.

I lost my virginity at 15. I was in a loving relationship, we were together for 3 years. Commited? I don't think you have to be intending to stay together forever, to make sex ok? Although we thought we would at the time....

It's not hard for everyone to get pg, I fell pregnant on the very first attempt! Thank god we were careful for all those years beforehand.
I don't think such a laissez-faire attitude is doing the dd any favours, at the very least her parents should be discussing sex with her.

Are children allowed to post on MN?
Not seen it before.

I was with the boy I lost my virginity to for four years. We were monogamous and loved each other very much. I'd say that was a comitted relationship, even if we didn't stay together.

I also don't believe sex should equate to love. I was brought up on this reasoning but I've realised that sometimes a no strings attached shag is enjoyable. I'm in a comitted relationship now but there have been times where I was single and still enjoying regular sex.

I was young and don't regret it. Nit all young people fit into a mould. Allowing teenagers to have sex at 15 will not increase the rates of teen pregnancy if they are using contraception. Look at other European countries where the age of consent is lower than 16 who have significantly lower rates of teen pregnancy.

I think underaveragejoe meant its difficult to get pregnant when taking all necessary precautions as she is.

I was also having regular sex at 15 and its ridiculous to presume you cannot be in love at 15 you are not devoid of emotion until your turn 16 i loved my partner very much unfortunatly for me he turned into an arse and we split, then at 16 i met someone else who i fell in love with 10 years on hes my husband.

Some 14 and 15 year olds are perfectly mature - not that long ago kids that age were leaving school and having full time jobs. My aunt and grandmother were both married at 14, admittedly one was a genuine shotgun wedding.

As a teacher told me, along with all the teen advice columns, the only reason to have sex is if you really really want to - and never because you think you ought to or you think your partner will dump you etc.