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To hope this teache has something to say to me

103 replies

shinybaubles · 11/05/2012 15:55

At the beginning of the week I got a letter home about parents evening, to be held today and that Ds has an appointment at 7.50 - 8.10 pm, so I fill in slip saying we won't be attending and send it back. Not attending because it's so late will have to get Ds 2 out of bed after he has been asleep and take both kids, it says on form no kids allowed, it also says no alternative appointments will be offered this is the only chance to speak to Miss O. Well I see Miss O to speak to at least once a week and was even helping out this week in class, she normally tells me how Ds 1 is doing, so I think nothing urgent at parents evening. Also Ds is leaving the school next month.
Yesterday there was a note home asking about Ds new school, and I reply happy to tell you when I next see you.
Get to school this afternoon and Miss O is at the door I said do you want to have a chat one day about new school, she says I must Attend parents evening, I explain I can't , am given the line no other appointments will be offered -ok but I wasn't asking for one. Then I was questioned as to not having a babysitter, and not having relatives available, then told it was very important to attend and that I am allowed to bring the kids.
So I'm going to parents evening with the kids seeing as I have been told to do so.
AIBU to be cross if she has nothing to say, and also if there is something seriously wrong with Ds and or his work she could have told me anytime all term and asked me to make an appointment if it was something formal.

OP posts:
CremeEggThief · 11/05/2012 17:51

Yes, forgot to say that you should definitely put something about the school's inconvenient appointment scheduling in your letter. In fact, it's more of a summons than a true definition of appointment!

startail · 11/05/2012 17:53

We take DCs other parents do too, they play in the corridor or the playground. Blind eye is turned to lack of supervision all the DCs know reasonable behaviour is required

shinybaubles · 11/05/2012 17:57

My 2.4 year old is a bit hazy on the definition of good behaviour especially when he has had to be dragged out of bed. Smile

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letseatgrandma · 11/05/2012 18:07

OP-is this a private school? I've never known a state school to blindly sent home appoinments that you HAD to attend, let alone after 7pm!

shinybaubles · 11/05/2012 18:09

Yes Angry not in Uk either but supposed to be a British education school, full of expats so where they think people can get babysitters and family from when the entire school is full of expats is astonishing.

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gettinghappy · 11/05/2012 18:40

Ah....no but they probably expect you to have a Nanny!! I can't believe that they are demanding anything. Remember they WORK FOR YOU!!

clam · 11/05/2012 18:52

"Remember they WORK FOR YOU!!"

Since when? Have I missed something?

exoticfruits · 11/05/2012 18:56

It must be a private school- so you chose to pay for it!

lifesalongsong · 11/05/2012 19:03

OK, so it might have been helpful to have the additional information at the beginning.

As this is a non UK private school the majority of the posts above are now redundant. The bottom line is that you are paying the school so you get to decide whether you go to parents evening not them.

PiedWagtail · 11/05/2012 19:30

Crazy - being TOLD what time slot to take? At our school we have a list in reception and we go and sign up for a slot that suits us. Bonkers....

SofiaAmes · 11/05/2012 20:01

I suspect that the percentage of parents who show up for the parent teacher conferences is reported to someone somewhere and the teacher doesn't want to have a bad "score" for that. I know that at my ds' school this is the case. Seems awfully silly to go in for a conference that is that inconvenient when your ds is changing schools next year anyway. What are they going to do if you don't go...give you a bad parent grade?

MagicHouse · 11/05/2012 20:19

Did you go? Was it worth it??!!

ragged · 11/05/2012 20:23

Hoping for update (hope it was a waste of time, tbh).

gettinghappy · 11/05/2012 20:37

clam Actually I believe all teachers work for the parents of the children who attend. Even in state schools. The tax payer pays their wages therefore they are public servants and work for and are accountable to us.....my opinion.

tethersend · 11/05/2012 20:59

I thought we worked for the children...

tethersend · 11/05/2012 20:59

Or, since we pay tax too, for ourselves Grin

QOD · 11/05/2012 21:04

I wonder if they maybe have a leaving gift?

clam · 11/05/2012 21:25

Well, I am a teacher and I can tell you quite categorically that I do NOT work for you, or any other parent for that matter.
I work for my Head Teacher, the LEA and, most importantly, for the children in my care. I pay taxes too, of course, and I would never be arrogant enough to presume that any public sector employee was working "for me."

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 11/05/2012 21:52

I do agree about teacher's being public servants, alongside anyone who works in the public sector. The term may sound a little derogatory but it's technically true.

TheFallenMadonna · 11/05/2012 21:58

Oh I've been told that by a parent. Or at least she said "I pay your wages". It sounded a lot derogatory....

PercyIsGreen · 11/05/2012 22:00

Clam - I am a carer working for LA and I can categorically say that I do not work for my service users or their families or anyone else who cares to think they pay their council tax and so I am a 'public servant'. I work for and am answerable to my employer ONLY.

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 11/05/2012 22:03

Anyone who works in the public sector is technically a public servant; council workers, NHS staff, teachers, job centre staff.

PercyIsGreen · 11/05/2012 22:07

I don't think we are called public servants anymore it's 2012 - does anyone else you know have 'servant' in their job title because it isn't in mine and I am sure as hell it isn't in a teachers

PercyIsGreen · 11/05/2012 22:11

Now public sector workers I can live with....

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 11/05/2012 22:11

Civil servants have it in their job title

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