I hate my new house

[SophieLeGiraffe]

Is that unreasonable?

We moved in yesterday. It is dark, dingy, grimy and feels like I'm in some holiday cottage which needs a good clean before you can really start the holiday. We already paid a lot for it but now we're in it's obvious I'm going to have to start throwing money at it to bring it to our standard. Daft things like sockets aren't in straight are driving me bananas. Big cracks where cupboards etc were that will need fixing. Almost every room and corridor needs to be painted. And none of my furniture fits where it was supposed to.

The house I left was immaculate, why have I spent more on a house that's less nice and more bother?

I was exactly the same when we moved. Lots of grime, filthy carpets and a very odd, fusty smell.

Two years later and while it's still not my dream house, after a lot of time and effort it's a great house and we're very happy here.

Make a list, crack on with white paint even though you're going to go back and skim. Get the windows cleaned which will make a massive difference!

I would love the OP to come back and update us on whether it now feels like home after 2 years

So would I Whispers.

SophieLeGiraffe is going to update later .

Oh Christ was it a zombie thread?

i would totally expect to clean a house fix a few cracks and so on when i moved house...wonky plugs would not bother me. i would not expect sellers to clean their house.

another zombie? how do these get started again?

OP i know exactly how you feel. we moved 3 months ago and i am only just TODAY feeling like it's becoming my own home. we love the house, but right now we have massive post-moving bills to pay and a falling down porch roof, plus a few other horrors. we have zero cash to start making changes, but this week i have stripped the kitchen and blitzed the paintwork and it looks and smells SO much better. i will be painting next week. we knew all this before we moved but it's still depressing. hang on in there. you will love the extra space and it will all be gorgeous very soon.

Oh I know how you feel - inheriting other people's grime and botched DIY jobs is a pain in the arse. I had to do just about everything to my house to improve it and it still needs work after fourteen years

BLOODY ZOMBIE THREADS! WHO RESTARTS THESE?

I felt the same when i moved into my current home...the thing for me was despite cleaning it from top to bottom it still didn't smell like it belonged to me....strange i know.

You will get there and soon have it the way you want in no time.

BLOODY ZOMBIE THREADS! WHO RESTARTS THESE?

People who don't RTFT?

I know how you feel! We just moved and while it feels amazing to have so much more space the decor is bonkers and it needs quite a lot doing to it - more really than we realised when we bought it.

Chin up though, things will look a lot rosier when you've had a good sleep.

Thank you AgathaF for alerting me to my zombie thread!

You'll be glad to know that nearly two years in it finally feels like home. I know this to be true because I visited my old house a few weeks ago and did not weep

We've decorated all rooms and stairways and had the carpets cleaned until I can afford new. Only thing to do now is new flooring downstairs although I have made my peace with what we have. It's all smooth walls nice furniture cream rugs and light reflecting paint now. The space is amazing especially when people come to stay as plenty of room to hide for everyone.

Bloody cracks got fixed and came back though I guess I too will be putting a big cupboard up before I sell!

Oh thing now is, bloody rain is getting in and needs to get fixed before it ruins my beautiful new walls!

I never saw my house before I moved. I was so fed up of periodically driving 7 hours north to view various houses (none of which were suitable) while pregnant and with baby number 2 (DH relocated with work) that I eventually said "we'll have that one, it's got a double garage (by the time of moving I had a five month old and a 16 month old).

Well, arrived at house, 70's detached 3-bed plain box, walked into living room and was pleasantly surprised. Whole house decorated in plain, clean magnolia walls, a welcome blank canvas after all the horrific décor I had viewed for months. Looked out of the window to see a wonderful view of the Firth of Forth and Ochil Hills. Wow, didn't expect that.

In the kitchen a letter from previous owner with details of bin days, recommended local tradesmen, best wishes etc. A bottle of fizzy wine, and all keys needed for house. Loo paper in bathroom, all blinds and curtain rails, all carpets (clean too), and a lovely large well-stocked garden. In the loft (floored) was one item; a windscreen for a mini. We gave that away to one of DH's colleagues.

I can't believe how lucky we were. Still here 19 years later...

Ah, so satisfying when a zombie thread is updated by the OP, I'll sleep well tonight, knowing you are settled in your home now, Sophie :o

I have felt that way everytime I moved house! Even this one which I built (so only my own grime/taste to contend with) I think it must be normal to need a bit of time to make it feel like home and yours.

oh a Zombie thread

I've been in my house four years. House, not home. 2014 is the year we rectify that. It mayn't be what we had wanted, but we have a roof and we will make it ours.

Your update has made me a little more concrete in my resolve. First step will be a skip at the end of the month. Out with the crap and in with the paint!

Let me share a little nugget of information to anyone who ends up in this predicament, new surroundings suck; I panicked while moving to my second home, it turned out it needed a lot of work and its hard to see wood for trees sometimes especially when twinned with buyers remorse and the realisation that you have been duped and scammed a little ! However do not make the same mistake I did which was within three weeks I had paid a deposit on a new build for a part exchange!! This was the biggest mistake I ever could have made and looking back now the emotions were simply just missing my first house; we can make some very rash decisions when we are made, scared and stressed but you really MUST MUST MUST give it time, give it a good clean and try settle before making any silly decisions like me and up to your eyeballs in debt.
Positives I am in a new build now but they are just MEH! I will however have to live with the sheer regret of giving up a house that would have been a forever home which causes me daily anguish!