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AIBU to think that titles are old fashioned and should be scrappped?

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axure · 10/05/2012 13:12

A thread has drawn attention to the fact that Driving Licences include Miss/Ms/Mrs for women, but no Mr for men. Do you think that titles are outdated and should be scrapped?

Personally I like being called Mrs X/Madam as appropriate, is this old fashioned?

Is it wrong that there is no title to denote a single/divorced man?

Do you still use Master for young boys, at what age do they become Mr?

Maybe you don't give a flying **either way, with far more pressing issues to worry about.

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Scholes34 · 10/05/2012 13:17

I like the distance use of a title puts between me and someone using it. I particularly don't like cold callers calling me by my first time - they're being overly familiar - I don't particularly like cold callers anyway, but that's a different matter.

Oakmaiden · 10/05/2012 13:19

I object to the fact male teaches are referred to as "Sir" (power and authority, anyone?) whilst female teachers as "Miss" (like a little girl).

ChaosTrulyReigns · 10/05/2012 13:22

I think equality should be strives for, and with titles it certainly isn't achieved.

That said - how to slove? I'm nor sure.

I think that the form fillers/creators of thus world are too bothered about the sex of the individual. This morning I had to state whether my child was M/F to sit a music eaxm. I struggle to see the relevance.

Trills · 10/05/2012 13:23

YA sort of NBU

I don't think there is much point to titles.

But how would you address people you don't know?

We need something that is more formal than using your first name, but there's no reason why it has to indicate your gender or marital status.

Instead of Mr/Mrs/Dr Jones what would we say? Comrade Jones?

Firawla · 10/05/2012 13:24

yanbu i dont see the point of them so would be happy not to bother with them.

Mrsjay · 10/05/2012 13:30

My dd is 19 and put Ms JAY on a form once i wanted to slap her she is a miss Grin I do think its needed though and not old fashioned its how we distinguish people ,

TheUnMember · 10/05/2012 13:32

Dear all

I like my title. It denotes my place in society to all those who know instinctively. I'm keeping it.

Yours sincerely

Supreme Overlord TheUnMember

bronze · 10/05/2012 13:32

Mr. Is short for Mister and Master

TheUnMember · 10/05/2012 13:33

*to all those who DON'T know instinctively.

axure · 10/05/2012 13:36

Oakmaiden hadn't thought about Sir/Miss in that way. In my job female bosses are called Ma'am, not ideal either, sounds a bit matronly/stuffy.
Do any Misses out there hate the title and use Ms instead?

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Mrsjay · 10/05/2012 13:40

Sir/miss is very old fashioned it was to do when female teachers were unmarried it is out dated , but what do they say OIY MRS Grin

IAmBooyhoo · 10/05/2012 13:40

i avoid giving my title on any forms.

sashh · 10/05/2012 13:42

Do any Misses out there hate the title and use Ms instead? I do. It is noone's business if I am married or not.

axure · 10/05/2012 13:42

Bronze I didnt know that . Is Ms short for both Ms and Mrs? I thought it was for divorcees and spinsters - have a feeling the S word will get some knickers into a twist, sorry!
Why don't we just use Mr and Ms and have done with it?

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Oakmaiden · 10/05/2012 13:42

MrsJay - well, no obviously. But they could say "Mrs Oakmaiden". It's not like they don't know my name.

axure · 10/05/2012 13:44

Meant Miss and Mrs...

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Mrsjay · 10/05/2012 13:44

I was being silly Smile I dont think the kids at our school say sir/miss anymore its always mr X or mrs Y . i know we said sir and miss when i was at school

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief · 10/05/2012 13:45

Why don't we just use Mr and Ms and have done with it?

Good question, although personally I'd favour just using Mrs for all adult women.

Oakmaiden · 10/05/2012 13:48

They do round here - my son always comes out of school saying "Sir says suchandsuch" or "Miss let me do something or other".

It is an interesting thought though - why is calling someone "missus" unacceptable, whilst "miss" is fine?

bronze · 10/05/2012 13:50

Ms is a much more recent invention and not short for anything as far as I know

Agree Mr and Mrs for all adults
I just don't like how Ms sounds

I do enjoy adressing things to messrs. weirdo that I am

mangomadness · 10/05/2012 14:06

I can't abide being called 'mrs' makes me feel REALLY old, plus I haven't taken my husband's name so I'm still a miss :)

OddBoots · 10/05/2012 14:09

On things that really have no need to know my sex such as sending off for brochures etc I have taken to using 'Mr', I'm sure anyone who sees that is likely to raise an eyebrow as my first name is very female.

Trills · 10/05/2012 14:14

Why do we even need Mr and Ms?

If John Lewis is delivering towels they don't need to know if I am a man or a woman.

diddl · 10/05/2012 14:18

Isn´t Mrs a contraction of "mistress"?

So all adult women should be "Mrs"?

Here it´s just "Frau"

HowardnHilda · 10/05/2012 14:25

I like being Mrs . I get twitchy with people I don't know trying to call me by my first name.

Someone from British Gas asked me last week if he could call me HowardnHilda and I said, " No, you can call me Mrs Surname!"

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