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To be dying to go back to work?!

39 replies

BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/05/2012 08:23

Oh it sounds awful, and I am indescribably grateful for my two amazing children and the opportunity to spend so much time with them (just a few weeks off the end of my year maternity leave with DS; DD two and a half) but dear god am I fed up with the humdrum of daily chores and no use of my brain (which is fast turning to mush). Am I an awful mum to not want to spend all my time with my beloved babies?

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WipsGlitter · 09/05/2012 08:25

No, I couldn't wait to go back when on mat leave. Am currently between jobs, am enjoying being at home more than I expected but don't know how long that will last!

confusedgypsychick · 09/05/2012 08:38

I couldn't wait. And I only got 64 days off with DS. But I am not a natural homemaker by any stretch.

KnockedUpMell · 09/05/2012 08:43

Yanbu! I enjoyed being back at work and using my brain again! DS loves his nanny, who i think is as good as I am at stimulating him, so it's a win-win! I'm pg again and dreading the year off mat leave!

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/05/2012 09:03

I make sure I go out every day and do stuff with the kids, so I don't think it's them (although I am getting bored of the same old crap at baby groups I go to...)

It's just the fact that the house is a tip but I feel I should be keeping it tidier and cleaner (but when/how?!) as I am a housewife this year....

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/05/2012 09:04

Also my terrible two is getting more terrible... She's at an awful stage of needing/not needing her afternoon nap...

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NichyNoo · 09/05/2012 09:06

I felt exactly the same with DS. Luckily (for me) I live in a country where maternity leave is only 3 months. I managed to take 6 months in total but was so glad I didn't feel the pressure to take 1 year.....

georgie22 · 09/05/2012 09:17

I had 12 months maternity leave and I do feel that I have more structure to my life now I'm back at work. I honestly feel that I have more patience and enjoy my time with dd more than if I was at home all of the time. I only work part time so for us it's the perfect situation as dh has changed his working week so he does a day's childcare. Being happy to work as well as being a parent is not always something that women like to admit though!! We still live in a society where it's not even considered where men are concerned.

my2centsis · 09/05/2012 09:30

This exact thread comes up at least once a week!

ShakeWhatYourMamaGaveYou · 09/05/2012 09:41

YANBU, I have 3 dc and after each one I last around 13-14 months and then back to work and absolutely love it! I hate that mums feel guilty for wanting to work. Happy mum generally = happy dc's :)

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/05/2012 09:55

Oh really my2centsis? I am a mere newbie! At least I'm not the only one who feels like that, though! Grin

Other posters on here: full or part time?

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takingiteasy · 09/05/2012 10:00

Yanbu!

My newborn is only 2 weeks old I've been off for 10 weeks so far and I'm enjoying playing at house just now but am glad I've got a job to go back to at some point. and I don't like the sound of my replacement, she better not be showing me up by actually doing somethin!!

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 09/05/2012 10:50

YANBU..at all!!! I love my DS more than anything but good god, I would have gone mad if I hadnt gone back to work.

Dont beat yourself up about it, happy mum makes for happy kids and all that :)

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 09/05/2012 10:51

Black - When DS was 20 weeks old I went back part time (3 days per week) - he is 9 now and I have gradually crept back to full time although during school hols I drop back to 3 days per week so I get some time with him.

I am very lucky in that my company are very very flexible with me.

EssexGurl · 09/05/2012 12:02

I understand completely. I had PND with DS and going back to work was a life saver (literally). The first 6 months of his life were truly horrific but I stuck it out at home for the last 6 months (partly as I couldn't get a nursery place earlier) and was glad I did as those months were much better, I bonded with DS, his colic disappeared and I became human again. But then that first day back at work, what a relief! I loved it and he loved nursery so two very happy people!

theonlynonblonde · 09/05/2012 12:34

YANBU. I've gone back 3 days a week, soon to increase to 4 and I love it. My days with DS are lovely, but going to work gives me another aspect to life which is important to me. It doesn't mean DS either isn't important to me or that I'm not a good mum.

sausagesandmarmelade · 09/05/2012 12:36

NOT A BIT OF IT!

On the contrary....

A happy mum is beneficial to the family as a whole....and you will of course be contributing towards the family income.

Nowt wrong with that at all!
Good luck!

BlingBubbles · 09/05/2012 12:39

YANBU, I am back at work next week after being off for a year with my DD. I can't wait!!! Get my brain engaged, adult company and most importantly Wong able to have a cup of coffee in peace Grin

Will miss DD but I know for my own sanity that work is the best place for me, I am not made to be a SAHM.

BlingBubbles · 09/05/2012 12:39

"Wong" being able to

Cassettetapeandpencil · 09/05/2012 12:41

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/05/2012 14:16

Thanks for the reassurance! A grumpy rainy walk and overtired whingy brat toddler today (and her overtired whingy friend, too!) have made me all the more willing to go back to work! Luckily my two yr old loves her childminder, and my baby has been there a few times for various reasons and settled really well, so I (hopefully) won't feel like I'm deserting them!

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/05/2012 14:17

Cassette- what are your hours at the mo and what do you want them to be? I'm asking because I'm considering the possibility of going fill time!

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TheSecondComing · 09/05/2012 14:19

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/05/2012 14:22

Thesecondcoming- WTF? Is such a snipy comment really necessary?

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Jenski · 09/05/2012 14:33

I really hope this is going to turn into one of 'those' threads!!

But, would really like to know how people manage working full-time (with partner working full time) with 3 kids under 8 if there is anyone about???

I am looking at full-time hours and want to know how manageable it really is?

Jenski · 09/05/2012 14:34

I meant 'isn't' going to.... oops

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